Sexual transmitted disease rave the nation like a wave in the sea. The Center of Disease Control and Prevention continues to fight against merciless crabs, gonorrhea, herpes, and the like that invades America, England, Australia, among other lands. The CDC declares that every year, there are about 19 million new victims beneath the hand of these diseases around the world.

Other than the fact that sexual transmitted diseases are common, they are also outright embarrassing, if not degrading. However, for the safety of your lover or the people you are sexually active with, you would have to tell them about this little ‘trouble’ of yours. Although persons with STDs tend to keep to themselves about their misfortunate conception, it needs to be spoken to avoid possible health hazards.

Now, there are several ways to make this dastardly little deed more bearable to expose.

1) Speak to her/him one on one.

Sometimes it’s best to speak things out, and tell them that it’s a serious matter beforehand. Schedule some time, like watching a movie together at their home or to speak together at a park. Make sure that the location you choose is where you won’t be overheard, and that it would give him or her some time to think on it and learn about what disease you have, and what it is about.

2) Write him/her a note.

If you’re too afraid to confront your love or partner face to face, write them a quick note about what you have and/or why you can’t speak to them directly about it. Leave the note on his or her diary/notebook or a place where no one else but they could reach it, and read it. If there is paranoia about whether someone else would read it, simply leave a note in their shoe, jacket-pocket, or where else it could possibly go to. Maybe after you guys are done hanging out, you could do the old routine of sneaking a note inside their pocket.

3) Leave a message on their phone.

A possible option is to first practice how you are going to record yourself before calling the phone, and going straight to message. Different cell phone plans have different ways to leave messages, and also the house phone. If it is the house phone that leaves with an only option, then figure out the time when no one is at the house before calling. That’s a sure-fire guarantee that there is a probability that you could leave a message. While you leave a message, you may want to set up an appointed time where you could prepare yourself to explain the STD in further detail.

4) Technology! Email or Message them.

Emailing your lover about the STD, along with back up information and others, would be a nice, educational, quick way to say all your thoughts without speaking a word. Emailing and messaging, whether it is MySpace, Facebook, msn, yahoo, words are expressed without having to be spoken. Simply have their email address, or figure out their personal contact options. It’s a quick say to speak about the unspeakable.

5) Have a close friend speak to them for you.

Make sure that a trusted friend with a good mind does this deed correctly. You don’t want to end up having to fight over a mishap someone did. I would say that this would be a last action resort, but it is up to you how you want to be revealed to the person you love. When your friend speaks with your love, make sure that you give them correct information and that they actually know what they speak about, word for word. It would be nice to also have this friend on good terms with your lover, whether they are boy or girl.

6) Figure out what else you could do on your own.

I might not have a million ideas how to expose your STD to a lover or a partner in a decent way, but I know that you could probably come up with a few good ideas of your own. I wouldn’t recommend sleeping with them and having them find out the hard way. Now that is rude and puts their life style and their lives at potential risks.

Over all, try to be decent when you expose the disease that you carry. Although it is a large factor to carry out, it is important. More-over, it ultimately decides whether your partner or lover would truly care for you. Whether or not you have an STD, they should respect you for that (as long as you weren’t sleeping around, or plan to marry that person!).

For those lovers, I’m not going to lie to you. There is a chance that your love may break up with you over an STD. However, it is good to be truthful because you wouldn’t want to put anyone you love at risk without them knowing. Ultimately, it is your responsibility to tell of potential risks, and ultimately your reason to know how to handle what you have.

-Cutecatlove

Bring mints and perhaps eat one before a date. It’s a pretty good idea to have some freshener to make sure that your breath smells acceptable, and not some gross left over stain from last meal. That could be a major turn off for your date, and probably make you seem as if you lack responsibility to keep yourself clean and tidy. Eating a few mints would avoid that problem, and a few in your bag will come in handy. Now that you’re guaranteed for fresh breath, have fun!

-Cutecatlove

With a quick sigh, you toss the dark green iron shirt over your head and quickly pull up your dark blue jeans. Nearby, the light brown clock with the golden hands starts to chime to signify that the time is near to meet up with your date. Right before you pick up your metal black car keys to drive off, you run to the mirror, and give yourself a quick assessment. After an approval that you have no boogers in your nose, your breath smells fresh, and your clothes and hair are neat and tidy, you bolt out the front door.

Hold up a moment, Juliet. I hope you know what you’re doing for your first date.

On a first date, Remember:

1) Set up a time, a date, and a plan.

It’s important to look at that brown clock and the schedule. If the man asks you out, go somewhere that’s public so you could be safe, in case anything goes awry. It is also important to be relatively on time. If it is your first date, being early would be nice and would cause the date to go smoothly. If you’re ten minutes late, it’s not too much of a problem. However, try not to strive to be more than thirty minutes late, or your date may leave.

2) Dress appropriately.

It’s a good idea to wear something comfortable and that fits the weather, like shorts and a t-shirt for summer, or a long dress in fall. However, you must be logical and remember that this is only the first date. The male may have the wrong impression about you if you wear a shirt that’s drastically low. That would be nice to avoid, and may make the situation uncomfortable to both you, and the male figure. Be beautiful, not exposed.

3) Be fair and offer to pay your part.

Regardless of who asked who, it’s only fair to pay your share. Although it is normally traditional for the men to pay for a restaurant or a movie, it’s polite to offer a share back. This isn’t just an empty polite ritual to do. It’s a symbolism that you’re willing to do what is proper and necessary, and you have an idea of what justice is and being fair. Simply pay your part. If you try to pay for the entire meal or movie tickets, then it may set another wrong idea about you; you’re rich.

4) A kiss on the cheek/handshake.

Forms of affection are okay, as long as it doesn’t go overboard. For example, full out making out with a complete stranger would give you a probability of having a sexually transmitted disease that he wouldn’t tell you about, or lie that he doesn’t have one. A hug may be okay, just as long as you make sure that your personal parts are kept safe and away. A simple kiss on the cheek is a friendly show of affection, and so is a handshake.

5) A small trinket or token of affection.

A small chocolate bar or a goody bag is a very sweet way to show someone you’re interested in them or that you care about them. It usually brightens up their day. A flower is also a nice gift. However, buying a necklace or a watch for the guy is out of the question. Keep it reserved and quiet, but sweet and simple. Although it is not the female that buys a token, it’s a friendly gesture.

All right, young Juliet. The car is all yours. I hope you’re ready. Just keep your cool and smile.

While young Romeo waits under the balcony of the restaurant, or theater, or wherever you guys plan to go, remember to keep it simple to the subject of being friends. It underlying emotions are meant to grow, they would and they will grow naturally. It’s just the first date. Enjoy your time with Romeo, Juliet. Time’s too short to not be happy.

-Cutecatlove

You all know that a lady should be fashionable late, right? But how late should you be? How long should you keep your man waiting on you? You should find some type of middle ground between taking your sweet time getting as beautiful as you can and not abandoning your date downstairs on your couch alone, or even worse, with your parents.

Let’s consider what you have to do to get ready for a nice date. First of all you have to shower, and possible shave your legs. If your date is at 7:00 P.M, I would suggest that you start showering at 5:45. This will give you plenty of time to shower long enough to get clean and to even just relax and enjoy the warmth over your body.

After your shower you should quickly dry off and start getting dressed by 6:30.  You want to look beautiful, so take your time picking out your outfit. Plan everything, from your socks, to your shoes, shirt, earrings, everything. Once you get it all on, make sure you are looking great and make adjustments as needed. By this time it will probably be 7:00.

You can hear knocking downstairs, the dog is barking at the door and you hear his voice. Smile to yourself, because you are still not ready. You still have makeup. Always make sure in advance that you have all of the makeup you will need in advance too.  Apply it all slowly to make sure you get the right concentration of powders to highlight your natural beauty. Upon completion the time should be at most 7:30.

You should not hesitate being a bit late. He wants beauty, you are beautiful, so go all out for him. Let him know you are doing it for him and smile as you do it. But once you get past 30 minutes you are now just rude, so keep that in mind.

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies. What are we going to do? Each one of us sits on our little brown dingy and holds a tiny fishing pole. As we fish in the ocean of man, we are repeatedly disappointed. More then often, we’re tempted to think what the heck is wrong with all of these shimmering tiny sardines. The ocean is endless, like the men. How could we possible find the perfect man?

The truth is sad. Perfection isn’t real. The probability of a man, who fits your wildest fantasy that pops up from a shadow, is zero to none. A beautiful fish doesn’t have every scale completely to scale. Aw shucks, the dream has been ruined and the idea of a perfect love is gone. Never fear! A perfect love is possible in this imperfect world. Now we’re heading out to find the big fish. But wait. Before you leave, you have to assess your tools, and the bait. Most of all, you got to figure out what kind of fish you want.

Bait. One of the basic elements of fishing, and necessary. Sometimes what we wear accidentally attracts men we don’t want in our lives. Sure, we flaunt and show off what we have, no matter what it is in hopes of attracting a mate for a long-term stand. But more than likely, it’s just a one-night stand. If you wear your shirt too low or your skirt too high, all you’re doing ladies, is inviting trouble and pregnancy.

Of course, although modesty is important to finding a long-term guy, you got to look good. Wear something that makes you look beautiful, but have some type of dignity. Baggy clothes are nice once in a while, but you got to be proud of your body, no matter what shape it is in. Men who sees that you have respect for yourself, and that you are proud of who you are, will probably be impressed and respect you if you respect yourself.

That’s step one in finding out Mister Right for you. You got to eliminate the others by figuring out who truly respects you or not. Mister Right won’t always be a rich, fancy suave looking guy. Now there are other perverted monsters waiting to jump on you when they have a chance. That’s why parents are firm on chastity. Some guys don’t care about who you are or who you’ll look like. They’ll swim, shine, and glorify their way to impress you. Ladies, ladies, ladies. I know some of you like doing perverted things. However, that puts you at a bigger risk to only be used and then thrown away after a period of time.

Most men are perverts honey, and you really rather not get mixed up in the mess of marrying a man that’s been cheating behind your back the entire time you guys had been together. So after weeding out the perverts, which I do hope that you would for your own sake, you could go on and see men and start digging into their personality.

Another tip for weeding out men is depending on the places where you would go to find them. Bars, for instance, are not good places to go to for finding men, especially if they are drunk. Most people often go to the mall to find a date, but often, people don’t really know what to expect. Night Clubs are an attractive place for perverts. Bad place to go to as well. Go to places where responsible people often go to, perhaps like a library to study. I’m not saying the person you have to date needs to be geeky, but if you want to find someone for the future, you better make sure they know some kind of responsibility first.

Perhaps this is a step too late, but I hope you read this. You really need to figure out the average type of guy you like, but just don’t rely too much on it. It’s not what is on the outside that counts, but what’s inside of the body. The soul, spirit, heart, is what counts when it comes to truth. Keep that in mind when you meet men and figure out who they are. The most important step however, is not in the assessment or trials you come up with. It’s how you look for someone to love. It has to come to you.

Remember, the fish comes to the bait. You just need to wait until the right person you feel that’s good for your life catches into your net. You don’t need to be fervent in your love. Let life take its course and logical skills to be abundant. Mister Right will appear to you, but it may not be in the way you think. Just take life on a roll, and enjoy the ride on the dingy. Whose knows? Maybe Mister Right is swimming just right below your boat.

-cutecatlove

If you are looking to attract a boyfriend or to just keep your current man happy, then show that you are happy. The easiest way to do this is to keep on smiling. By smiling he will see you are enjoying yourself and having a good time with him.  For sure he will want to take you out someplace nice so he can be seen with your beautiful smiling face.

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Oh how cute! You actually remembered that it’s your lover’s birthday coming up? Well then, it’s time to plan something out. For those that are early planners, I got a few tips for what could be possibly done to make the special day for that special person to be spectacular. Of course, if you are late to realize that it’s your lover’s big day, here are a few hints to create a sweet, but spectacular display of a gift. Remember, these are options! Not steps.

Number One: Make a surprise birthday party for them!

Let it be on a week capable where her friends are available; invite the people you know she would get along with and a few relatives to create a homely, cozy atmosphere. It doesn’t have to be costly; you could have every guest bring food and split decisions on whether who does what. It would be lovely if the party was set for a theme you KNOW she would appreciate, such as her or his favorite color, animal, sport, etc. It releases the inner child or the inner “them”, so just have some good ‘ol fun.

Number Two: Plan a solitary date.

If you’re going to make reservations to a restaurant you know that she or he would absolutely love, a movie, or just a simple walk in the park, a concert, remember this. Please make sure they are available. It is highly inconvenient to have a surprise date, especially when that person is busy on that day. So, try to find a way to work about it and tell her or him before time that you want to take them out somewhere special. It’s another sweet trip, to go.

Number Three: Buy a cute outfit, after making sure he or she is that size.

It doesn’t have to be anything big, just something thoughtful. A jacket, for instance, could never go wrong unless you guys live in a desert. A cute shirt that you would know they would love or pants. If clothes do not work out, like a tie, buy some useful artillery such as a brand new razor, some high-quality soap packages, or perhaps even a rare type of potted plant.

Number Four: There’s always a quick pick-me-up at a flower store.

Buy a lovely cute teddy bear and some flowers. They would cheer up anyone’s day, especially on a thoughtful birthday. It would work on both gals and guys, but if you have other ideas of what would be better and more thoughtful to give, then go ahead and do so.

Number Five: Spend the entire day with them.

It’s another loner type of date, but it’s more personal. After inviting him or her in your pad, go ahead and cook them some breakfast, and if you can’t cook, then eat cereal, or something along those lines. Take out is probably a good idea as well. Go to the city and just enjoy each moment together. If your companion is not a person to do that, then pick another tip among the passage.

Number Six: Create something for him or her.

A love poem, a happy song, a short story, painting, drawing, or anything that you use to release how you feel for her or he, is an exceptional gift from the heart. Even if it is a hand-made object, and it took time and effort, it would be worth giving. If you don’t feel confident in your ability, there’s no harm in adding an extra gift, like a box of chocolates or his or her favorite CD.

Number Seven: Teach them something they never knew before.

Education is a gift that’s useful and proper. Yet, you have to remember that religion, political ideas, and others should be steered clear. Go bring a book and do some research together and learn something different, or on each other’s view in the world. A new idea to learn and to speak about is interesting and also a fun experience, as long as you know how to steer clear away from topics that could possibly lead into fighting.

Overall, while giving these gifts and being there for your lover, try to make their day as great as possible. Treat your love with courtesy, politeness, gentleness and encouragement. Life goes by too fast to let it slide so easily. Be happy with what you guys have and brighten up their day with a smile. Most of all, remember that the true, best gift in the world, is none other than the feeling of love.

-cutecatlove

Howdy, forgotten dreamers and broken hearts. Let’s come to the reality of life, and make some common sense. Not everyone has a perfect ending when it comes to a relationship. In fact, about 99.999% of humanity experiences the faulty human error of having their soul ripped apart by a lover. Whether one is a young adolescent, or an experienced adult, the dire crash of love from a faulty handle practically burns you in confusing fire, if not numbs your mind and soul. Ouch. Now that’s a serious burn that seems nearly impossible to survive out of. The world seems out of whack, and life just seems …so dull.

Although it seems that this world is beating up on you like a punching bag, or a rotten piece of meat not fit for a scraper’s worth, you could dig yourself out of this pit. The pit around you is dark, black and cold, and the dirt seems slippery. The sun is hidden, and there seems to be no way out. What the heck are you suppose to do then? My answer, other than being sick of this long introduction, would be to start digging out. I could give you the tools in number; I just hope that you have enough endurance to use them.

1) Release your stress and emotion in a positive way.

This is the most important step in order to move on. If you have too much emotion inside that’s flooding to surge out, you have to focus it and find out how to release it. I highly, highly, wouldn’t suggest calling your ex to yell at them or beat them up. It’s not going to help get over them, and it’s going to hurt you more in the end. It’s hard to focus the pressure of stress, but it has to be done.

Run! Write puzzling poetry that makes no sense! A story without any line! Or dance to your heart’s content, until the dance feels like a hug. Sit with nature and enjoy the air, or paint. Play sports! Work harder, or scream where no one could hear you. Those emotions got to get out somehow, and you got to find that release. More importantly, make it a positive outlet. Control the stress, before the stress controls you.

If you wait, and you “bottle-up” as the term goes, you will explode and do what you would regret. For example, you end up yelling at your boss by accident. And…You’re fired. It’s dire that you open those doors to let the water floods out. Your body wasn’t meant to be a dam.

2) Talk about the problem and difficulty with someone. It could be God, to your friends, even to your family. Shoo, you could even talk to your counselor at school. For those that are religious, go pray to your God/s or Goddess/es and ask them for support and help to move on. It’s a big help, and it separates those on who are your real friends, and those that are not. If you need to speak to someone about a problem, they should take it willingly and listen, and understand your situation. At the same time, they should be fair.

It’s hard to find that, or to take criticism if it was your fault in the relationship. That often discourages people from talking to get over it. However, it shouldn’t be discouraging. It just shows more effort on whom you could trust as a friend in life. Although it is understandable to feel guilt, you have to accept yourself, for beauty and for faults, and find someone that accepts you as who you are as a friend. In this modern time and day, where people are judgmental, brash, and brutal, it’s difficult. Sometimes close people would hurt you. Yet, there will be someone to talk to. You’ll stumble on them when it’s necessary. Just trust with what you got.

“Friendship, a dear balm – whose coming is as light and music are ‘Mid dissonance and gloom. A star which moves not amid the moving heavens alone; A smile among dark frowns; beloved light. A solitude, a refuge, a delight.” (Connected Therewith, Perry B. Shelley, 1792-1822)

Write the above passage down, and take a few minutes to think about it. Think about what it means to you, and what you could do with it in your life, or what is refers to. This is just a suggestion. It has proven to help a few others who needed comfort to move on, and this may be a help. You got family, and you got friends, and you even got God/s/nesses (For those religious people) to pick you up off your broken leg.

3) This is a cruel fact that must be taken in. You can’t do anything about the fact that they are gone. The thoughts and pictures that play in your brain would be full of “I should have,” “Why didn’t I,” and a lot of “What if.” Honey, that needs to get out of your system, pronto. You need to realize it’s over and it’s done for good. You might hate it, and you might wish that you want to get back together with him or her, but just take it in that they are GONE.

You can’t go back and change anything, so you must accept the state you are in now, and work on improving it. Maybe pretending that they’re dead might help for a few of you out there. Maybe the relationship between the both of you didn’t work out because the other wasn’t good enough for you, decided to be an idiot and break up with you. Maybe you faulted and made a mistake, or didn’t work hard enough to please his or her expectations (And no, Sex should not be an expectation. Any guy or girl that wants sex is basically using you and being a moron.).

It might take a few days to recover from the blow, or even several punches over, and over again until you finally get the idea that nothing could be done at the moment. After you finally realize, comprehend, understand and take into your life that nothing between you both could be done, than maybe there’s something else that you could possibly do. That possibility is step four.

4) When you got no one, and you’re out in the blue, Work. You need to direct your passion to other ideas, similar to step one. But you have to work. You got to keep busy in order to keep your mind busy and refrain from thinking about your ex-lover. Most people often wonder their thoughts and can’t complete their job right, and their life takes a down-turn because of the depression. You have to push the negative out and take in a better quality of life.

Working could amount to helping out the community, play video games all day, work more hours at a job or career, or pursue an interest with renewed vigor. Trust me; anything would do as long as you could keep yourself busy from thinking about your ex-lover. Cleaning the house, speaking to other people and meeting new friends, for instance, are good “working” ways to push out the thought from your mind. Speak about other objects, and stop connecting one idea to an ex-lover.

You have to keep busy, you have to push yourself off from that bed or that couch with chocolate bon bons, turn off the soap opera channel, and move. Take in trust. Being a dead-beat won’t do anything for you except probably make you obese and a lazy person. It’s time to strive, time to live, and time to create an existence actually worth living for. You think that love is worth living for? It is, but read on to number five. You’d be surprise what I would have to say to this.

5) “Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offense. There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, its hope, and endurance .In a word, there are three things that last forever: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of them all is love.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-13)

Do not search for another lover to become a boyfriend or a girlfriend, until you’re over your ex. I bet you weren’t expecting that. Although the closest type of love between people consists of lovers, there are other types of love to take in. Of course, people tend to misuse Love for sex, among other ideas and thoughts. Love has a lower quality than it has years ago, and it’s rather saddening. Love is a great gift, and it’s not singled out by a “lover’s” relationship. Love consists in everyone.

What a lift love gives. True love holds truth, and selflessness. True friends and families consist of this truth, unwilling to lie to you and willing to compromise their own wants in order to lift up your needs. This love respects one another, and is perhaps one of the most important ones of all. We’re human and we need relationships. We need to touch, to be held and to speak to someone who would listen. We need respect as a people of this earth.

Sometimes you might not have anyone to speak to, and you’re alone on this island that no one wants to stay on. You have to remember, life isn’t all about a specific person, like your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend. In fact, you don’t NEED a lover to be happy, and many people take that for granted. After a break up, most people would put themselves at vulnerable risk by searching out for another possible mate. Usually, that is when people start taking advantage of you and use you, trick you, and basically make your emotions and heart a mockery. It’s not worth going out right after breaking up. Give it few months.

6) “If you look too hard into yesterday, you lose tomorrow.” –Unknown.

Perhaps the most important aspect of life is trusting that tomorrow would be a better day. If you keep focusing on the past, then it would be difficult, a struggle, to move on forward ahead. It’s time to stop looking in the past and go forward it the future, thinking, dreaming and hoping for new chances, new lovers, new homes for your heart to come. Don’t search too valiantly for love, because in time, love would come to you. You have to trust the world. Even if you don’t find a new love, you have a passion with the people you come to know and your work.

Sure, the memories will come up and you would hate it. But focus on the memories that were good if that happens. If you let the bad memories come up, you’ll have regret over your past and the mourning would go for even longer. You got to focus on the good memories, about the sweetness. Sometimes you might be bitter; it’s common. Well, all the more good for you if you find more reason to move on. But it’s not reason that counts. It’s if you actually do it.

Now I’m not saying that if you follow these steps, the pain of an old lover would be forgotten. They would never be forgotten because you once loved them, and they take a place in your heart. You just got to accept the conditions life has for you now, and work around it. Life is a force, but as creatures of survival, we learn to adapt, to make use and focus on our current condition. In time, if you ride time’s wind, the pain will still be there, but it won’t hurt as much. Look forward into the next day, into how life may unfold for you and how you could unveil yourself to achieve those dreams, new or old, forgotten or dead, in the future.

You don’t life forever, so mourning forever won’t do you any good. Once you climb out of the pit, a bit of dirt might cling onto you. Yet, there is the sun in the sky that warms up your cold body, and a fresh spring to refresh yourself and to proceed ahead into the green hills that grow, just beyond the Spring horizon.

-cutecatlove
TDA