Everyone has those butterflies in their stomachs that flutter with a mere crush. Sometimes crushes may grow to become more known as love. Whether you may tell the person you like that you like them, is entirely up to you. However, be known that the truth is better than a lie. Sometimes trying to reveal a truth is nerve wrecking, especially when there are odds that he may not like you back. So what is for a girl to do? Well, here. These are a few suggestions.

1) Breathe.

Relax. You got to allow your mind to think on what you could do. However, you should remember that this is reality, not some soap opera show or dreamland. Once you relax, then you could take the next step.

2) Talk to them.

Yes, talk to the person you have a crush with. Nothing is as straight-forward as speaking, “I have a crush on you.” Those six words seem easy to say, but you want them to appreciate them, right? Speak when it is convenient for both him and you. When you use convenience, it is a subtle form of respect. It is nice to reveal emotions, but don’t badger him on or ask if he feels the same. It would probably just make him uncomfortable.

3) Write them a note.

If you KNOW you could trust your crush, write him a love note. Tell him not to let anyone else read it if you regard it as personal. Jolt down how you feel for them, but don’t ask them out on a date, or write them a poem. That may scare the poor boy and think you’re insane. Oh yea, keep in mind that writing a note is risky, since anyone could accidentally read it. If you decide to write a note, try to keep on the low and safe side.

4) Phone.

If he happens to call you and talk, go ahead and speak back. If you guys are just speaking for enjoyment, it wouldn’t hurt to slip in the notion that you have a crush here. It gives it a chance to be subtle, but there. Hopefully he is listening on the other line, or that the phone doesn’t cut out here.

5) Internet/Mail/Messenger

Ah, the variety of the internet. It basically applies on the same line as a phone.

6) Let them Breathe.

Once you told them once, you don’t need to tell them a thousand times again. Sending three notes every day is ridiculous, or to call/text every moment is simply insane. Remember, it is you that has a crush on them, and probably not the other way around. However, if life is favorable, then that person would have a crush on you too. Don’t spoil it by being repetitive and suffocating. Allow them to relax.

7) Be you.

There are a million of ways that a girl could exclaim to a boy she has a crush on them, in both appropriate and inappropriate ways. For her sakes on not being possibly judged or used, and for you guys out there, try to stay appropriate. Giving the boy a gift, for instance, is a sweet way to reveal a crush (especially if the gift is vanilla)! Speak in your voice. It is your heart that’s asking you to speak out, but use your mind to figure out how to do it.

-Cutecatlove

Here is an interesting insight. Have you ever heard of dating while being married? Well, that’s what pineapple relationships are about. While some people consider it cheating, other people consider it a type of normal. Arguments about pineapple relationships are common, as one side considers it unmoral and the other to be accepting.

Dating relationships to marriage has both wife and husband acknowledging that the other partner is having sex or dating another person out of the relationship. Now, while some people may consider them, it is best to speak to your partner about your view about pineapple branching, if you will, before getting married.

If you are already married and consider about the pineapple relationship with your spouse, symbolically it’s a good idea to put a pineapple in the open, so that other people with pineapple relationships would see that, and could bring it up without feeling awkward.

Now while in a pineapple relationship, it is best to consider this. The spouse may become jealous, or perhaps the others you are pineapple-ling with somehow fall in love with the other couple.

Having a pineapple relationship is not recommended for some people, but ultimately it is up to you to decide what you want to do. Just use logic. For people who do want to do this sort of activity, then they should at least be an older couple; younger couples tend to be busier and have less time.

Remember, your spouse has to agree with it. It is just an idea. There are websites online you could find for other couples that do pineapple relationships, though I will not mention them in this article for I lack knowledge of what they are called.

Remember, take consideration about if you do it and who you speak to about it; some people find it hard to accept.

-Cutecatlove

Neil Sadaka speaks truth in his song when he sings breaking up is hard to do. Whether it is your first break up or your thousandth one, broken hearts, broken minds and discord is often common.

Of course there comes a time where maybe, you got to break up with the person you are with. Well, here are some general guidelines so you could keep your dignity and pose while acting.

1) Think.

What is the reason why you are breaking up with him or her? Did you simply have a bad day and you are venting, or have they screwed up? Before you do an action you may later regret, give consideration about how you feel and sleep on the problem or reason to break up. If you think the reason is a respectable reason to break up and it has to be done, then proceed to read. Think about it. If you lose them, they’re gone.

2) Do it in person.

The relationship may be long or short, but respect is necessary. If you break up in person, it gives the other a chance to relieve their emotion and how they feel. It also gives them time to have some relief of the sudden pressure of breaking up; let them have flow of emotion so it doesn’t blow them off.

3) Location, location, location.

Do not break up in a place where a thousand, if not a million eyes could spot him or her crying. That is simply rude and inconsiderate. Keep your dignity by showing him or her respect during the separation. A home is a nice place to break up at, but make sure that there is room for a quick get-away. Sometimes your ex may become emotional and out of control, so it is important to take priority for your safety and theirs. If there are threats to either you or the other of harm, go contact help if the danger is immediate or later if possible.

4) Give time.

This can go both ways. Give them time to heal during the conversation, and let them decide when the conversation is at an end. Since the other is deciding, more than likely the conversation would not end up short. Listen to one another when you speak so there won’t be any mishaps. While you both speak, here are some pointers to follow when speaking.

5) Be honest.

Honesty is important in and out a relationship. Speak the reason why you are breaking up with them, but do so in a sincere manner. It is better to have the truth from the lips of the person they love, even if it is during a break up. Tell them everything and all the reasons, but don’t make the pressure weigh down hard on them.

6) Try “I” instead of “you.”

Sometimes honestly seems to constantly blame the other person. Try to switch the gears around and make the focus of the problem as if it deals with you. Remember, it takes a force to make the reaction. For an example, which I found, instead of saying “you’re just a cheating liar,” go along the lines of, “I feel insecure and need time to regain confidence.”

7) Watch your emotions.

As you proceed with the break up, watch your emotions. Be humble. Just because you are breaking up with them doesn’t give you a reason to be prideful about it. Instead, try to be compassionate and understanding. Most importantly, stay calm and caring, but do not be intimate, such as break-up sex. It makes it harder for both sides to move on.

Stick to the point.

The entire point of having a break up conversation is to break up. Keep that purpose in mind. These words, “This is something I need to do for myself,” or “maybe this is the best thing to do,” may persuade the other to accept breaking up. Expect questions, crying, arguing, bargaining, begging, and/or especially, lashing out. Although it is nice to sympathize, do not fall for any of these. You called them here for reason to break up. It is important to care, but not to fall back.

These are some helpful tips to keep in mind during a break up, and will make it a lot easier on you and your partner. Although it may be difficult, it is important to remember that break ups happen to almost everyone. Your ex may also wish to do you emotional harm, but you need to stay strong and know what you are doing. Give each other time to heal, and move on. Breaking up hurts, but at some point in time, it may have to be done.

-Cutecatlove

Hello lovely girls. Now before we go outside for some fun time with friends or a lovely person, remember to grab some deodorant! It is nice to smell as fresh and as clean as possible. Besides, no one wants to smell body order, so be hygienic!

-Cutecatlove

Ladies, we all know that at some point of time, we are bound to put ‘tests’ on our guys. In all honesty, we should refrain from testing our boyfriends, our husbands and other ideas. When we test them, as if trying to push to see how far they would go for us, we could lose them. We need to respect them because they are human and a person we love.

Testing could ruin a relationship, so refrain from testing them. Instead, look at him as the person he is and accept him. Love doesn’t require a passing of any tests, no matter how fun those tests are. Love requires loving a person just the way he is and respecting him for who he is. That is important.

-Cutecatlove

The foundation is getting rough, and the building of love that seemed impossible to budge is now swaying. How do you maintain a relationship when other people are trying to tear it apart, one of you keeps making mistakes, or other what nots? Well, here are a few tips to stay bond up like two peas in a pod through thick and thin.

1) Remember “We.”

Sometimes we get caught up into our own share in the relationship that we forget that there is no “I” in love. It is difficult to maintain a relationship with someone if you’re trying to do it alone. There is a “we’ in relationships.

Both of you work to stay together and to hold the relationship up. Both work together, both preserve, both struggle, both love, and both are in this boat together. In order for the relationship to stay afloat, work together. The “we” is also a reminder that you are not alone when you suffer; when you suffer, so does your partner. When you feel joy, so does your partner. It is team effort.

2) Compromise.

A relationship is composed of both giving and taking, sometimes making compromises to each other in order to gain a greater advantage; sticking together. Our selfishness, as human, can sometimes overdrive to make us think that the other is not giving us the attention we need, when in fact we’re squalling over it. We should re-evaluate ourselves and find our mistakes, and fix them so that there is no more “I”, but instead “our” happiness.

3) Trust each other.

When wrapped in a world full of wrath, nothing but trust could pull you through. When other people are bagging on your boy or girl, you got to ignore it, even if those people are your friends. You dated the person you love for a reason. You should keep an ear out to your friends, but don’t assume. You need to find out what happened for yourself instead of having actions based on words spoken, instead of what your eyes have seen.

While misjudging words could lead to a break up, you have to remain loyal in your trust. Those two, loyalty and trust, are hand in hand. Trust your love no matter what the circumstances are. More than likely, if you trust them, they would trust you back. Trust is a foundation, and to keep the building from falling, you have to keep that foundation firm.

4) Listen to one another.

Grab a pillow, a cup of tea, and a love-couch for a long discussion. Listening to one another, repeating each other (not sarcastically) and understanding, is a great way to connect. Often times, when someone speaks, the words travel from one ear and out the other. We got to keep the words our love says in our head so we could actually understand what they are speaking.

Understanding, complying and reasoning each other without screaming is a good way to stay connected to one another. Talk about any problems either of you guys have with each other in a calm, adult manner. Be friendly and patient as you speak and try to look at one another’s point of view.

5) Have some time off.

It is nice to see one another and to hang out, but sometimes solving a problem requires some alone time. If your love is making you mad, or they seem as if they need some space, give it to them. It doesn’t mean that you should go off and break up with your love, but try to limit the time you both spend together. Tell the person you are doing that because you want to relationship to stay strong, or you want to work some problems out. Either way, you both should have respect and understanding to know that sometimes, people need time to cool down.

These are the basic foundations for the first floor to steady the relationship. Most of all…don’t let the world get to you and make you lose the relationship with the person you have. Do what you can in your power to keep the love between you going, along with trust, affection loyalty and most of all, hope for one another. Love is a beautiful creation, so think before you jump off a cliff when the going gets tough. Both of you are tough, so stand the storm, instead of going.

-Cutecatlove

Been a playboy or girl all your life, and suddenly you got grounded? When I say grounded, I meant being hooked on a love relationship. Staying true and pure to the person you’re with is difficult for some people, but here are some basic guidelines so you can keep that pet of yours in your pants.

1) Be mature.

You found a guy or a girl to be with for the rest of forever, and you don’t want to cheat on them. That’s the whole reason why you came to this article in the first place, correct? Then listen up. This task to being loyal and faithful must be steady, and firm. You have to think this through and not waver in any doubt. It takes courage and truth to be firm and steady. Clear that out, and you will have a much easier time remaining faithful.

2) Flirt with your spouse/love.

And no one else. There is a fine line between flirting and being kind to a person of the opposite sex. Winking, flaunting and taunting stays with your love, and only your love. If you saw your love flirting with others, you would probably have doubts whether he or she is faithful to you, or not, correct? Keep that doubt out of mind and take some control of yourself. You may be beautiful, but share the beauty with the one you are with.

3) Don’t be alone with the opposite sex.

First step! Being alone with another girl or a guy will give off the wrong impression. Not only would it give off the wrong impression, but it could lead off to wrong desires. Although you do have a partner, there is someone there at the moment. Although this person could just be a friend, you don’t want to put yourself in a position where it enables you to cheat. Beside, if you do cheat or your partner thought you cheated, he or she may try to use the term, an eye for an eye.

4) Stay sober.

You may go out and have a drink or two with your friends, but be careful. You need to evaluate yourself and your limit before you accidentally let yourself go drunk. Find the limit, because when you get drunk, that’s when the party for the break up gets started. If you need to get drunk, then make sure all temptation is gone. As the saying goes, “A drink can make even an ugly girl (or boy) look beautiful.”

5) Refrain from clubs.

Unless your love is going to be there. Clubs are an invitation to drinking, partying, and frankly, near-exposed bodies that sways to seduce, or capture for both men and women. Parties should be enjoyed, but they should be enjoyed in a way that keeps you loyal. If you are going to appear alone at a club, or with another friend, don’t go at all if your love is far away. It is another knocker that invites a broken heart to enter in such a tempted disguised manner.

6) Think of your love.

Yes, think of your devotion. Behavior is a key factor, and so are your thoughts. The thoughts of your love and your concern for him or her should be enough to drive any temptation out of mind. Do you really want to see them break down, cry, or go insane because of a fault that could easily be avoided? The mere thought of the person you plan to spend your life with should chase forbidden fantasies away. Keep thinking of true love, not lust.

7) Self-control.

Remember, it is ultimately your decision, your choice, and your pick that determines your loyalty to your lover. It is either do, or don’t. Is cheating really worth losing someone you love? Restraint is the key and so is learning how to push out other thoughts that could ruin havoc on your relationship. Think before your act. Self-control on your thoughts and actions. Perhaps the most important section of self-control, is to keep your eyes to yourself. Don’t look at other people lustfully, unless it’s your love. Trust me, it’ll help.

8 ) Adjust your mindset.

Many people in this generation and age grow up in a community to think sex with other people is all right. Although the other condition tells us it is wrong to do so, the other disagrees. There are two conflicting thoughts and whether you know it or not, your mind set may be framed upon believing it’s fine. It’s fine to think about having sex with someone else. WATCH IT. Thoughts become words. Words become action. If you control your mind-set and change it away from temptation, your body will do the same.

The temptation of lust is a difficult battle, but it could be easier if you correct your mind frame. Remember, if you lose, you suffer a life time of pain if that lust destroys the joy with your love. If you win the battle, it makes the next temptation easier to resist, and a more stabilized style in order to live with your love in a mostly untroubled way.

-Cutecatlove

Howdy folks! Well, everyone should know by now that there are two popular ways to gain attention. Showing off your ability, and flaunting off your body are highly recognized as a mating ritual. Shucks. There are other ways that are not so obvious to the world, while keeping respect about how to capture the eyes of a possible life-time partner. There are seven ways to keep a few eyes glued on you, and here they are.

1) Smile!

Both men and women find smiling attractive; it makes a person look cheerful and friendly. A good smile is inviting for conversation or time to chill.

2) Eye contact.

To some people, nothing is sexier than having eye contact. Whether eyes be cold blue, lucid green, warm brown, blushing black, almond hazel, rosy red, or what ever color the world has in store, it’s nice to show them off. Making eye contact shows that you are either interested in them or wish to speak to them. Eye contact could also send off other signals such as trust, and comfort.

3) Choosing clothes.

Clothes offer protection against weather, and also a sense of style that could help enhance your physical features to look appealing, or not. It also helps define your personality, such as if you are a tide or neat person, or to have a dark feature. People are often attracted to clean; neat and tidy clothes that fit a person and make them look presentable, instead of looking like a slacker.

4) Laughter.

Laughter is important because it spreads happiness and joy. Laughter is contagious, and is sure to capture an eye of any onlooker. It doesn’t mean you should laugh like a hyena (Unless it’s natural!). You simply need to show that you enjoy the moment and that should be worthy of looking by itself. Producing humor is also great as a catcher for the ‘meny’ fish out there.

5) Keep yourself Tidy.

Although it is important to wash your hands and your face, be sure to get rid of boogers and the dust in your eyes you get after sleeping. Nobody wants to look at yellow ear wax or smell you stink. Hygiene is necessary. Once you attract attention, you don’t want it to turn away. If you keep yourself clean, you reinforce attention, especially if you are wearing perfume, cologne, or body spray.

6) Talk!

Nothing breaks the ice like speaking. Being open, friendly, and respectable to others is a wonderful to way to break the ice and to attract attention. When you both talk to one another, remember to allow the other input, instead of making the conversation one-sided. Speak about them, but do not make them the main focus of subject.

7) Be natural!

While it is a nice idea to attract the opposite sex, be yourself when you attempt attention seeking! Attracting attention is like attracting fish; try too hard and you’ll scare the fish away. You have to let it simply happen like casting out a line. It is furthermore important because it shows the other person who you are and whether they would accept you.

Remember, attention is nice, and finding a mate is even better. However, quality in life doesn’t depend on another person; it depends on your happiness and satisfaction you find from living day to day and the reason why you live. Whether that reason would be to simply breathe the air to smelling the flowers, the joy in your life could be seen by other people. If you find joy in your life, others would love to share that joy, and make the mate-attention, just a bit easier to do.

-Cutecatlove

Don’t ever take manners for granted. Remember what your mama told you? Be polite, courteous, and respectful, but by no means be a robot. You’re supposed to have a personality and show your being through actions and words. However, you also need to recognize that people have limits of what is acceptable to others, or not. Manners are created to make sure you keep within those boundaries. They are especially helpful when trying to win over your lover’s parents.

1) Say yes/no sir/ma’am.

It’s basic logic, actually, to show respect to your lover’s parents. Saying yes sir, no sir, yes ma’am, no ma’am, shows that you acknowledge them being older but by no means call them old. It shows that you term them with authority and respect. If they do not want you to call them sir or ma’am because it makes them feel old, than ask them what they would prefer to be called by. It’s a suggestion so you won’t wind up calling your lover’s family, “old hags,” by accident.

2) Take off your shoes when entering a house.

When you enter a household, it is polite to take off your shoes so you don’t tract in dirt, dust, or mud from the outside. I mean, think about it. If you cleaned up the entire house and have someone ruin the carpet or wood floor with mess, you would not like that. Unless you have permission from the family, then you should take off the shoes and put them outside or a place appropriate for the shoes.

3) Keep your feet on the floor!

I put an exclamation point here because some people seem to not understand the basics of this etiquette. Chairs, small tables and couches are not places to put your feet up and chill. Some cultures see that as if you are trying to be dominant, although in the culture of ‘today’, most people are blind to see that as an invasion of the house. It is safe, either way, to keep your feet down and relax unless the household gives you permission.

4) Refrain from asking for food.

It would be a good idea to eat before you manage to go to the household of your lover’s family, unless they invited you to dinner or to lunch. In the case you get thirsty, go ahead and bring some water or ask for permission from them. After all, water is an instant necessity that should be taken into consideration. It is considered rude, sometimes, to ask for food because you are draining the food supply in that house. It is unexpected and also sometimes unsafe. Sometimes food gets half-bitten, for example, and placed back in the fridge. So to be safe, just don’t ask unless offered.

5) Say please, and thank you.

Oh, a logical thought to say please and thank you! Saying those words show that you know how to give respect to other people, and not just yourself. It shows that you do not want to force others to do as you bid, but instead a kind word and a request. Saying please and thank you shows the possible parents-in-law that you are not demanding (to an extent) and that you are willing to accept what their answer will be.

On a side note, the more you learn about your lover’s family cultures, the more guidelines you can follow so you could be less offensive to them and respectful to their beliefs. It is useful to win over the parents because after all, the person you are with is their child. While you are within those guidelines, remember that your personality counts the most as well; we don’t want your love to think you’re a mechanical machine, after all.

-Cutecatlove