While many people of this world see touching yourself (aka masturbating) as normal, and probably appropriate, there are others who disagree, some strongly. Whether you wish to stop touching yourself for spiritual reasons, to help make yourself a better or different person, or to create a stronger foundation of sexual loyalty to the person you are with, here are a few tips to prevent that hand from grasping a place where you shouldn’t be grasping at all.

1) Avoid Stimulation

You know what triggers you to be aroused. It might be porn, the thoughts that run in your head, or your imagination at work. If there is days/nights that you give yourself more love compared to others then stay away from temptations during the day. While a person may tend to be drawn to stimulation, learn how to ignore it, and avoid it if possible. The logical point of this paragraph is to simply stay away from any stimulation that you know off as much as possible, even on the days were you may feel nice and clean.

2) Walk Away

Throughout the day, there is much stimulation that pop up that may encourage you to do deeds that you rather not do. Those are situations that you cannot help to take away. That may be a billboard hosting a near-naked woman/man, a person who may be trying to seduce you (then that MIGHT no longer be self-loving), or a naughty thought. Keep your eyes off, and look or walk away from such situations. If a naughty thought pops up, divert it: focus on music or take a stroll. Just keep your mind off from it.

3) Have Self-Control

Half of the time we give in to our desires because we lack self-control, or we just learn not to care about the outcome. In order to stop masturbating we must first have the idea and focus to stop. Most of the doing is in our head, whether there is a reason to do it or not. You have to remember that your brain is in control of your body. They both work together. It’s a simple case of mind over matter. Your brain is over your body, and to gain self-control, you got to let your brain do the work. Self-Control isn’t served on a silver platter. You got to work for it.

4) Focus on the Struggling time

Night time, or the time when you go to bed is often the time where weakness is at its greatest. That’s when you find something else to do. If you simply have to touch yourself, do something else. Sit ups, push ups, working out, eating, and other ideas may help you diverse the focus and narrow in attention to other deeds. Basically, find something else to do that wouldn’t stimulate you and instead gives you something else to do.

5) Find the Reason

Other than the fact that it satisfies your body, what’s the reason you masturbate? Sometimes, masturbating comes from being bored, being lonely, being stressed, reminded of the pains of the past, or being hurt. Masturbating is finding an easy way out to forget those problems for a short period of time. If you masturbate excessively, there may be a problem. The simple answer, “it feels good,” loses affect if that is the case. You got to start digging deep to find the root of reason.

6) Deal with It

The puzzle is figured out, now you just got to solve it. Feelings often take hold of us and determine our thoughts and actions. Dealing with them in an appropriate manner is a skill many people tend to lose or forget. While you cannot control your emotions to an extent, you can control your actions to help you determine those emotions. As quote on quote from the internet, “It is because you decided to feel bored. Nobody made you feel bored. You did.”

7) Emergency Way Out

If worse comes to worse, have an emergency escape. Try to whip yourself with a rubber hand, prod yourself with a pen, or pinch yourself on the arm to divert your attention and to remind yourself not to do what you are about to do. If pain does not suit you, try something else as an emergency way out. Do something similar and as shocking however in order to stop!

Focus on a New Image

They say that it’s all in the mind. Try to image yourself as a person who does not masturbate or touch themselves. Focus on that for a few minutes during the day, although it might seem strange and odd at first. The more you focus on becoming that new image, the more comfortable you become with your progression. Remember, we are not perfect! An image gives us something to look up to and to encourage us to become a better person, and probably even re-program us.

Your goal and reason to stop touching yourself is your own personal issue, and may gain you more respect for yourself. It may help you become more sexually loyal to your possible partner, and gives you more time to fulfill other duties, such as finishing up a video game or balancing a checkbook. Whatever your reason, hopefully these tips would help you achieve your goal. Just remember! We are human, so don’t go too hard on yourself!

-Cutecatlove

Life is short, so please try to enjoy each day. You never know when you’re going to die. You got to love and enjoy yourself in order to make other people’s day happier, or better! Show the people that you know that you love them by showing them and not dragging them down if you can handle any pressure! Try not to complain to them or whine about their irritating deeds, and help others out to the point where you find acceptable and where you can handle. Find your threshold. Most of all, be happy. Life’s gonna fly by, and it won’t wait for you!

Sugar, Muffin-Top, snookums, baby, teddy bear, among a bunch of other sweet nicknames, are often given to describe the sweet side of a person. Other nicknames, such as Bull Dog, Tiny, and Pee-Wee describe that status. Whether they are friend or foe, nicknames are given to show and shower attention to detail or affection. They are often given to lovers, family and close friends. While it is fun recognize each other in a different manner, there are some people that chose to stay out of the game. Just like in every segment the world has to offer, there are rules of do, and don’t.

1) Making Nicknames

When you make a nickname for someone, you have two choices. You could either use your imagination to create one, or log on the computer and find a nickname generator online. It is much more personal however if you make your own, instead of letting a machine do all the work. Most of the common nicknames come naturally. They usually come from the original name of a person, and they edit it so it would be shorter and easier to remember. Those kinds of nicknames are common sense. Female nicknames usually end in a vowel, while males end with the rest of the letters. Both can contain the letter Y.

Several examples are:

Christiana = Ana = Any

Edwin = Ed = Eddy

Enrique = Rick = Ricky

Candice = Candy

Dustin = Dusty

Regular pet names for one another are a little different. They are cutsies calls that often repeat a certain part of a name for one another and often shortened to have a child-sounding, admiring affect, usually associated with lovers or friends. If you know a different language, or a movie, and a name could fit into it, go ahead and combine those two together. It is sweet since it required a bit of thinking putting those together, if not, a bit humorous depending on the word.

Here are a few examples:

Michael = Mike Mike = Micah

Tabitha = Tabbycat = Tabsters = Bit Bit

Timothy = Tim Tim = Timu

Rachel = Ray Ray = Chelsea

Thomas = Thumper (Movie: Bambi) = Thomas O’Malley (Movie: Aristocats)

Ana = Amor (Spanish: Love)

Regular nicknames and regular pet names are nice, but if you want to make a nickname more meaningful, then you would definitely have to dig a deeper approach. Calling a person Sugar-Top, Baby Cake, among other types of food, beverages, or animals, usually doesn’t work unless it matches a person’s personality and how they look. If a person is a jerk who loves to trip people for his or her own humor and get into fights, I’m pretty sure the nickname Sweetheart, wouldn’t match it up. Nicknames could also go to the extreme, expecting one thing and getting the other.

Example:

Large, tall, muscular person = Tiny (one of those polar Extremities nicknames)

Sexy, sweet, well-rounded, logical = Baby cake

Youthful, sweet, willing to help others out = Muffin Top

Friendly, huggable and nice = Teddy Bear

Smart, crafty, sneaky, sexy = Foxy

Loner, strong, swift = Coyote

You get the idea. Basically, once you know a person and have an idea about them, you could give them a meaningful nickname that describes how they are. Feel free to use your imagination and do the works to match and pair up ideas. Combine words and names together, and you could come out with nicknames such as Gar-bear (Garrett, a friend who is like a teddy bear). Making up nicknames are fun, but if you refuse to make up a nickname and you just want one without the works, then proceed to the next step ahead.

2) Nickname Generators

Ah, the classical fun of nickname generators. You can find those all over the internet. Just log on to any computer, go to Google or any other search engine, and type up nicknames, or nickname generator. If you want to be specific, then type in what you like, such as pet names, or cute nicknames. A bunch of links will pop up, and then you could just click and go. Here’s an important note. If a website tells you that the nicknames they come up with are for fun and games, keep it like that instead of calling each other that nickname. I’m certain that your buddy wouldn’t like to be called, Red Hot Lips. Especially if he’s a guy.

3) Some People Do Not like Nicknames

Nicknames are fun and all, but there are some people who does not find fancy on being called differently than by what their name is. Some people think that although there is nothing wrong with nicknames, there is not really a point to having a name if you’re just going to be called something or someone else. It may be against their philosophy, or it may interfere with their definition of who they are. It may also remind them of a bad point of their life (think relationship wise). If a person does not want to use nicknames, then don’t give them one.

4) A Time to Use/Not Use Nicknames

Here come the rules of nicknames. Oh boy. When you are at work or at a place that demands maturity, nicknames have to be thrown out the window. As there are times in the season, there are times when it is appropriate to use nicknames. They could be used in a social setting, especially around when hanging with close friends and family. If it is a party, you could use nicknames if you wish. However, at work, with other people that you do not know, and public places, where people can overhear you, may not be the best time to use such names. Use your judgment and your gut. They are usually right to tell you whether you should call a person something, or not.

5) The Use of Nicknames

What’s the point of nicknames? As stated in the first paragraph of this article, nicknames are used to shower attention or affection on people, whether it is friend or foe. It is also good fun to give each other names that we can gradually get comfortable with, and have a deeper insight of what our names could possibly mean or be. It’s a way to make a person smile at being recognized differently than their name, and also gives a sense of some importance. A nickname is just a nickname, but as said. It gives attention and difference.

6) What to Avoid

When you do make nicknames, please try to avoid derogatory words, such as swear words and cuss words. It’s not really nice to hear yourself being called a swear word, especially when you turn into a label of one when you’re not. So avoid bad mouth and bad words when you do nicknames. That’s about the only thing to avoid, except to also avoid nicknames that may hurt other people! Calling a person Fatty, when they’re fat, for instance, isn’t very complimentary. Nicknames are for fun, not for destroying each other with emotionally.

Nicknames are all in respect, so use them to build one another up to a better mood and comfort. However, make sure you have fun or help others when you use them, or else they lose their value! Remember, it’s up to you whether you want to go by a different name or not. The most important note of this article, however, is that it doesn’t matter what you’re called. You’re who you are, no matter what name you have or give.

-Cutecatlove

Once you find a boyfriend or a girlfriend to be with, how are you supposed to treat them? Do you treat them the same once you are together, or do you take an entire different personality? There are a lot of questions that goes through a person’s head once they decide to become firm in a serious relationship. What is the best way to treat the person you love? Well to make sure you won’t stumble too hard on the ground while brainstorming such questions, here are a few guidelines to keep so your significant other won’t think you are insane or unstable.

1) Don’t Change

Unless it’s for the better and to improve yourself, rather than trying to set yourself up to become a person who you are not. Instead of putting on a façade that you are the perfect ideal boyfriend or girlfriend once that you guys are together, be true. I’m pretty sure that if you started dating, it’s because the person likes you for who you are, instead of wearing a mask. You should keep it that way.

2) No Abuse

Here is a highly obvious treatment. Don’t abuse the person you love. Don’t treat them like a chew toy, kick them, beat them up, or swear them away. Make sure that you do not give them all of the work in the relationship, and that you do not steal most of their life away for their attention. Also make sure that you give them attention when they need it or want it, unless you have other business to take care off such as in the manners of family or problem with friends. Don’t poke them until they cry, and don’t shove them against the wall, physically or emotionally. Also do not abuse their personality. If they are kind and you want to do something bad, and know you can probably get away with it, that’s abuse. If you love someone, don’t hurt them. Period.

3) Respect Highly

Make sure to give each other some space and time to hang out with their friends and family. Respect that sometimes your other needs to show other people that they care about them, and not just you. Although you may love all their attention, there are other people in their lives and there are other people in yours. I’m not saying that you should stop hanging together all of a sudden, but rather that you guys do not forget about friends and family. Make sure that you both respect each other enough to give each other that personal space.

4) Communicate

Talking to each other is highly important. Communicate how you feel and ask often about how the other is. If the other is not communicative, go ahead and ask questions to see what’s going on. Of course, you shouldn’t be an investigator and put them under interrogation. If your significant other is a female, and she says that she’s all right but refuses to say anything more, and you feel like something is wrong, do not be afraid to prod her into talking. Even you guys need to talk, so you wouldn’t seem so dead!

5) Spoil Them

Be thoughtful, be a sweetheart, and don’t be afraid to spoil them when it comes to mind. It isn’t required to go out every week to buy out a fabulous lunch. However, a small flower here and there, like a monthly surprise, is a nice way to show someone you care. Spoil them with love and affection, but don’t drown them in it! Giving gifts every day may be a bad idea, since they might expect you to give something extravagant on truly special days. However, a pop up surprise is a lovely thought, and may even help hold relationship bondage together!

6) Be Equals

Don’t treat one another like a servant or expect the other to do the entire work that needs to be done. You have to be equal, and both do your share. Whether one works and the other cleans up the house, or vice versa, or pays to go to school or take care of the kids, make sure that both are doing the share. If a person pays for one get together, go ahead and pay for the next. You both know the work that should be done, and whether you both decide to make a schedule, talk about it, or observe and follow up, that will be up to you. Just make sure that you both treat each other equally, instead of one dominating the other!

7) Watch Yourself

We’re all human, so make sure you keep an eye on yourself and take care of yourself, before you go on trying to take care of others. Now you may have your temper, be hot-headed, hard-headed, and heck, even cold-headed. Make sure you control yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically. If there is anything wrong and you feel like you’re not up to do anything today, there are two options, and perhaps three if you can make one. The first option is that you can calm yourself first and make sure you stay away from trouble. The second is that you fight through your problems and do the best you can. Option three is yours. However, through each step during and even after a relationship, you have to keep an eye on yourself to stay in line.

Understand Them

You’re going to have to understand your other in a good extent if you are going to be with them and treat them the best way you can. Go ahead and have some insight of your other, such as hanging out with them and asking questions about them, what they like and dislike, and what irks them or makes them happy. If poking them until they cry makes them upset then don’t do it. If they like it when you mess with them, then go ahead and do it. In order to treat them the best, you should know them the best to your ability. Knowledge is Power!

There is nothing like respect, understanding and being fair in a relationship. Acknowledging and knowing about your significant other helps create stronger glue for the relationship building, and most of all, show your love! It’s one way to say it, but the strength of it comes from action. Watch yourself and how you express your love to one another, because you never know what may create a stronger hold to pull you both together.

-Cutecatlove

Go ahead and meditate. Give a bit of breathing time to yourself so you don’t feel overwhelmed or stressed out with daily life. Take ten minutes or thirty minutes out of your day if it’s possible. Hey, if time really is important, five or ten minutes wouldn’t hurt if it’s for you. When you meditate, you do not necessarily have to hum or empty your mind. Meditation is a form of relaxation, where you focus on relaxing thoughts and ideas to help you through your day. You would be surprised to see how that would change your day. Hopefully it would be enough to lower down the stress level everyone lives with!

-Cutecatlove

This world gets dangerous day by day, so keep your eyes out. While people are progressively becoming more deadly, you find yourself in a possible situation where you either have to fight to survive or end up dying. It would be best to frankly, avoid that possible encounter all together. Here are some relatively helpful tips to help survival from the daily and nightly threat of other people and of being alone.

1) Go in Pairs

When you go out with a friend, it lowers a chance of abduction. Two heads are better than one, and certainly provide a better fight than one alone. Try to go out with someone when you do go out, because not only does it give better company, but a higher rate of safety. Of course, make sure that someone you go out with is someone you know! Grocery shops, malls, or just out to the nearby 7-11 has a risk of some sort, whether it is large or small. If two girls walk together, that wards off any attacker since there is a greater risk of him or her to be identified or caught.

2) Keep Eyes Out

When you walk either downtown or to a neighbor’s house, keep your eyes peeled for anything out of the ordinary. If you see someone that seems suspicious, or a person following you, it’s time to set your stance to either flight or fight mode. However, just keep your eyes peeled. If a road seems bad, such as writing everywhere in the streets, you know to avoid that path. Use your eyes! You have them for a reason. Don’t forget to use your ears as well, to hear anything that may cause danger.

3) Improvise

Before setting your foot back out in the parking lot, make sure that you get your keys or whatever you need out, already out. It would be a good idea to use keys as a possible weapon, holding them in your fist while the keys poke out from one of the spaces in between your finger. Only use when necessary, of course! Pepper spray is also a good weapon to use if need be, but anything could be used as a weapon. A pencil could be deadly if you know how to use it, for example. You could stab someone’s eye out! I’m not saying attack people, but keep that in mind when you’re out that anything can be transformed to a weapon.

4) Stay Focused

You shouldn’t need to fumble around in your purse outside, where you could easily be captured if your attention is diverted. Although talking on the cell phone is nice and texting is fun when you are walking and you have nothing else to do while going from one destination to another, stay focused, and put that phone away. Anything could happen at any moment, and even if someone calls or texts, put it on hold unless it’s an emergency. Little distractions like that could ultimately make you not notice someone sneaking up behind you, or even a car about to run you over. Stay focused! This world isn’t as pretty as a phone.

5) Travel Safely

All right, yes when you travel you got to look over and make sure that you’re safe. Make sure that you always travel where the public is. Do not take alley-ways or streets that are void of people because that’s where trouble often starts. Going to a place where there are lacks of people means there are less people to see what may happen to you. It gives an attacker a better opportunity to do what he or she wants to do with you, and you rather not go into that sort of danger. Your gut would usually tell you if it’s safe to go down a road, so listen to it. If your gut says avoid, steer out of the way!

6) Lock Down

Car, or home, or even your personal, keep it at a lock down. When you are driving, make sure that all doors are secure, even the back and trunk. You rather not have stole-aways, or someone that wants to pry your doors open and hurt you. Same rule applies to your home, especially if you do not live in gated community. Better safe than sorry. When you are out, make sure that no money pokes out of your pocket, or any identification. Keep them somewhere deep on you that they would not be in the open. Your purse applies as well. Do not hold your purse flim-flamsy. Hold it against your shoulder and tight so that no one could slip it off from you with ease. Keep everything tight up!

7) Don’t be a beacon

Sorry girls, I hate to break it to you, but dresses and skirts give easier access to rape, unless you’re wearing shorts beneath it. I am not saying that you should stop wearing them. In fact, I’m a skirt-wearer myself. However, you may not want to become a flaming beacon for rapists and other people by wearing super showy clothes, such as a super mini-skirt and a size-too-small shirt. Men, you are not excluded; some females also rape. Try not to be such a show-off with those muscles, such as keeping your shirt open and exposing your chest. Being a beacon might be saying you’re prideful of your body, but it also is an alarm for people to isolate you as a target.

Get Your Own

Hospitality is nice, but sometimes suspicion could be raised from it. If a person offers you a drink, whether you know them or not, or some kind of food, don’t take it. Go and get your own. You can move around and manage to get your own needs and wants. When you’re outside, keep your guard up, because you never know when someone may want to drug you and take you out. You don’t have to be rude to say no, you just have to tell them you’re not in the mood for it. If they complain, let them. Don’t feel bad for saying no. You’re just protecting yourself.

9) No Temptation

For guy or girl, don’t let temptation or your heart get in the way of your safety. If someone offers you sex or anything, don’t go into it because they could lie about having an STD. Also, if someone is selling an item from a truck, remember what your parents told you. Don’t accept candies or toys from strangers, especially if it’s from a truck. If it’s an ice cream truck, of course it’s safe. Otherwise, don’t go and buy items that you are not familiar with from a person or a stranger. It could be that the person may have been a thief and stolen that item for their benefit. If you buy it, what’s going to happen? So stay out from temptation.

I am not saying that you should think everyone is after you, because most of the people of this world have their own business to take care off. However, there are those people who have nothing better to do or wish to do nothing else but to terrorize, molest, or bother other citizens. The word here is to simply stay on guard and avoid any possible conflictions. Better to have peace, than trouble!

-Cutecatlove

Cliché? Maybe. But then again, there are times that a person just feels like they got to dress up and act like a proper lady or a respectful gentleman. That may be before arriving for a date, meeting a family, or going to a special party. So, how exactly do you turn into your current stance no, into a gentle-person? Whether you might transform to impress a certain guy or gal, or to uphold yourself more respect, here’s a few tips to learn how to become on of the gentle people!

First attention that should come in mind is, bada bing, bada boom. Clothes. Not much of a shocker, is it? When you choose out clothes, especially for a formal event, wear something modest and sexy. That means, women, do not go out wearing a super mini skirt that shows your butt every time you bend over or sit down. Instead, wear a skirt that goes up to mid-thighs. If you choose to wear a shirt or a dress, the same rule applies for the chest. If it shows too much, try to cover it up, unless that’s just impossible.

It can be open shoulder, though. Same rules apply! Sexily modest and simple. Oh, yea, no jeans when formal. Men, slacks and no jeans. I know it’s hard to do without the jeans, but it’s time to cut them loose and try a different pair of pants on. It is best not to be baggy when you dress formal, and keep your appearance clean. Also keep in mind to have your clothes ironed to look neat and tidy. Also, if you are a guy, it would be a must to wear a tie.

Now the next idea that should be upheld is how to sit! Females, make sure that your back is straight and that you never slump, and that your legs are always closed. Let it be crossed, knees together, make sure that they are closed at all times. Males, don’t slam your legs wide open and slump back. Make sure that you keep yourself closed as well, arms next to your body. Don’t’ do what males usually do; spread everything wide open! For both, watch your posture when you walk. Keep it straight and balance. For better effects, pretend that there is a book on your head at all times. Just keep your sitting to be simple and again, modest.

Oh boy, here are the manners. Formal gentleman, you know the rules. Hold the door open for the lady, and ease them into their seat. Both should know to watch their language, and also to act in a professional matter. Of course, don’t be too boring! Bring in some topics to talk about, and ask questions. If one of you feels uncomfortable about a subject, go ahead and speak it out, but try to stay away from such subjects. Oh, right. Don’t forget what your mom has taught you. No elbows on the table, and please say your please and thank you.

Here are some extra tips!

Put up a smile, and try to stay in season. Wear perfume or cologne that matches the season if you can to make yourself seem more appealing. For example, wear light perfumes during warm weather, and fresh scents for hotter weather. For spring and summer, choose light floral and citrus scents. Light spices/cinnamon for fall is nice, spices for a cooler weather, and heavy scents during the winter such as musk or oriental notes.

If you rather choose other scents for personal reasons, feel free to do so!

Remember, being a lady or a gentleman might be difficult, but it helps hold in the self-esteem of pride in oneself. Whether it is for a special occasion or just for your own benefit, being properly mannered is a way to make yourself distinct in this world. So here are a few helpful tips to get started on your way, and hopefully the trade mark of mannerism would stay!

-Cutecatlove

Need integrity? Pretend your mother, father, or guardian is over your shoulder the entire time, every moment and every second of your life. Being truthful in all you do is much easier when there’s someone to witness what you do, even if the witness is someone in your imagination. If that doesn’t work, then keep truth and honesty up in the front of battlefield, and watch yourself. Take pride when you do the right thing, and learn from the mistakes you do. Integrity is a wonderful trait to have! It’s also especially an attractive quality.

-Cutecatlove

Here’s another first date tip! After meeting with a lovely lady or a lovely guy, and you guys plan to go out, find a nice place. Make sure it’s modest and decent, so they would know you are not the cheap kind of person. Instead of going to regular McDonalds or fancy Ruth Chris Steakhouse, try somewhere modest but affordable. Olive Garden and Applebee’s are two good places to go to eat out during a date without necessarily piling up the bill. Seriously, you do not want to give the wrong impression that you are cheap or overwhelming rich. Be at the center, and gain the center!

-Cutecatlove

Now this is a twist. Don’t date if you have a hidden agenda! If you are only dating someone to get to their body, or to use their money, halt right there and turn around. Dating is about loving a person, not what they have or how they look like. So before you go any further, march up and think about whether you are using a person or not, and figure out why you do the things you do. Using people won’t necessarily make you happy in the long run, although it may in the short. Word of advice: date to seek love, not just fun.

-Cutecatlove