Nurse, I think we need you. We’ve been infiltrated! Our thoughts are foggy and cloudy. It’s difficult to sleep at night, and the food won’t go down easily. Concentration is down the drain, and favorite activities no longer hold our favor. The only sunshine in the window is this certain guy or girl. The madness has come, and we ask of you to please rid the insanity. Oh, but you cannot? Impossible. There has to be a cure for… what is that you say? Love sickness? Hold the needle. I think everyone deserves information of what love sickness is about. Pass the clipboard!

Love Sickness:

Is a mental condition where a person’s head has been infiltrated with a type of dopamine high. Dopamine is a type of happy chemical in the brain the results in falling in love. It is an award system the brain sets up in order to help us survive. Such drugs are released when a person eats, drinks or have sex.

Other drugs associated with the illness would be norepinephrine (an energy and sensory booster) and phenylethylamine (in chocolate). Phenylethylamine enhances a pleasure rush from chocolate. If lovers part, that chemistry level drops. The addiction a person has to their lover often has to deal with these hormones, and the pleasure center of the brain.

Symptoms:

1) Headaches/Dizziness

2) Sexual desire

3) Nausea/stomach disorders

4) General malaise

Weakness or discomfort

5) Obsessive and Compulsive Disorder

Thinking, contacting, and dreaming about a certain him or her constantly

6) Daydreaming/Spacing out

7) Mood Swings

Your mood elevates from wonderful, grand, high self-esteem, energized and then plummets to suicidal thoughts, grief, crying and lethargy. Or vice versa

Insomnia/Weight Loss

Unable to sleep or eat. Lack of appetite

Cure:

1) Time is the only known cure.

Love Sickness is like a drug. Remove the loved one and the body suffers from withdrawal and grief. There is no medication that can make withdrawal easier, except time to heal.

If the loved one stays, the body will start to build up a resistance to the drugs the brain releases. It weans off the addiction and the intensity. Emotions will become more stabilized and calm as the relationship moves to a firmer, steady one. It is a secure emotional bond.

Of course, there is the bad side of stabilization. People often will screw up their relationship and find a ‘new love’ to repeat the entire process of the sickness. Sometimes some people think they have fallen out of love once the drugs have been weaned off, when instead there was a constant stream of pleasure.

Tips:

1) Vent

You got to make sure that you have an outlet for pent-up energy, so make sure you always find something to do. Keep yourself busy.

2) Eat

Emotions take a lot of energy, so eat! Bread, fruit, and honey are good foods to eat while you’re stressed out.

3) Learn

Go ahead and cry. It reduces pressure and helps clear the mind. Do some self-evaluation and learn to love yourself first, and then others. If a relationship is new, take your time and let time take care of what needs to be taken care of. If a relationship is over, go ahead and grieve. However, if you are in a destructive relationship, go and end it. Not everything was meant to be.

Perhaps the problem most people run into during this interval is that they are too harsh on themselves. Be kind to yourself, and learn to remember that life isn’t always about another person. You got to enjoy life, so strive to do so without depending on others. Being love sick is normally traumatic, and it isn’t always easy. You got to just take it easy, and to use a clear head.

Be a good listener. Everyone appreciates someone who would think, ponder, and wonder about what their words mean and why it holds importance. There are many people in this world who love to blab, but very few true listeners. It means a lot when someone speaks and a person is focused on listening. Words exist for a reason: they are meant to be heard. Show that you care about a person by listening to them. It does not mean you need to shut up and stare (although it helps to look at them so they would know you’re paying attention). It means you understand them and their expression. Sometimes a person just needs to express themselves to someone they could trust.

-Cutecatlove

Whether it is Cupid shooting an arrow straight to your heart, or Eros possessing your body at the sight of an attractive mate, people ponder whether love at first sight truly exists. The life long partner is finally achieved, and luck takes a large part of it. Does the ‘perfect’ match come just by randomly finding a stranger where love blooms when your eyes lock? Taken into consideration, the answer to that question is both yes and no. I will go add in more detail. Meanwhile, take note. You got to be careful when Cupid flies about.

Hormones:

Who can deny it? Hormones take a major part of our lives. From growing up, transforming bodies, attracting mates, and being attracted to mates, our hormones draws us to act and behave on our instincts. So what does that have to do with us being attracted to others on first sight? Well, they take a major part. Usually you are attracted to the partner that will help you create a stronger, healthier child. You both are compatible genetically. However, emotional compatible may be a completely different ordeal!

So while you might go head over heels at some guy or girl that caught your instant fancy, they may not like you or have a personality that is not as attractive as their outward appearance. Without hormones, the prospect of love at first sight may not even exist. It’s a cold truth.

Truth and Luck:

Another cold truth is that sometimes we cannot control our heart, and fall in love whether we want to or not. We could blame that on our hormones, thank you very much! Of course, luck has a giant part when spotting a special face in the crowd of gray. Depending on our mood or the timing of the situation, a potential partner may just pass by without us even noticing! If we’re depressed, tired, sad or irritated, then our dream guy/girl could walk on by the street looking at us without us responding. Emotions seals for the perfect moment.

As luck has it, nature controls when and where you will encounter the first sight phenomenon, if you encounter it at all. To help nature or increase your chance of becoming a victim of many Cupid’s arrows, keep your heart open and be ready to receive and give love. Just keep this tip in mind: appearance does matter when it comes to love at first sight. After all, it is their stunning smile you fell for, their enchanting eyes, or perhaps just their style.

For You:

If you want someone to fall in love with you at first encounter, I’m sorry to break it to you, but you’re going to have to leave that up to nature. To help increase your chance, though, you could always fix yourself up and make sure that your face is clear of all dirt, your clothes pressed and neat, and your personality is uplift instead of down and moody. Attraction is compelled greater by a happy personality, since happiness attracts people. It’s not a sure-fire way for others to suddenly like you at a first meeting, but it is a way to help increase your confidence.

The love at first sight is a possibility, and to an extent, it exists. Of course, you shouldn’t leave everything up to time and fate, although they do take a major part of your life. You are steering your life and you could turn the wheel left, right, straight, or even backwards if need be in order to help yourself and become more attractive to a person of your dreams.

Just keep in mind that hormones will definitely try to influence the wheel to take a turn, so keep your head straight on. Head over heels, but hey! The phenomenon might as well strike you next.

-Cutecatlove

After failing attempts to find and reach someone in the real-world situation to date, some people turn to the internet for guidance and help. Other online relationships happen due to curiosity, such as browsing through chat rooms, or going on forums about certain types of games, then communicating with the people there. Perhaps you just randomly found someone interesting to talk to online and you want to get to know them more, liking them for their personality and their show on the web. Either or, as choices have it, should we trust online dating, and how do we know if it’s right for us? Take note. There are some benefits and some precautions to watch out for.

Precautions for Dating Online:

The person you may be talking to might not be who you think they are.

This is infamously known on popular sites, such as MySpace, Facebook, etc. If some person randomly decides to speak to you, or talk to you and you get to know them, their entire person may be a lie, or they may be lying about their feature. I’m pretty sure that you, the audience has heard of the MySpace scandal where a mother impersonated a boy, got a girl to fall in love with her, and ended up breaking the girl’s heart. The young girl then committed suicide, not knowing that the boy she talked to never existed.

Sometimes, other people would lie about their age to either use you or take advantage of you, or try to hurt you. Someone may say that their twenty one for example or twenty to get a younger person, and their true age would range from twenty five to twenty nine. That could constitute a possible rape or even a killing. Just remember to be on your guard if you are going to date online, and use your logic and gut before trusting your heart.

Benefits:

Talking online to another person makes the stress and fear of a real-life situation of speaking face to face gone. However, you can still transfer conversation, thoughts and ideas across the web. It gets you to connect with another person without having to worry about your appearance, and gets you to know the personality of the person before you have a chance to see them in real life. You get to fall in love with the person as they are, instead of basing it on how they look. It’s also cheaper, since you don’t have to take them out to dinner all the time. If and when you finally meet them in real life, you would know what to expect since you talked to them online, and be able to prepare yourself and become comfortable knowing them in the real-time situation.

Drawbacks:

Although meeting online has great benefits, there are also several great drawbacks. Other than the precautions you have to take, their lies may be extended and they, the other person, could be using you for their entertainment, their urges or desires, or perhaps even cheating on you although their words say they are not. You would not know their friends or family unless you ask, and they could be other people posing as friends and family for her/his benefit instead of your search for a soul-mate. It could even be someone you know trying to hurt you. Keep an eye out to protect yourself.

About Dating Sites:

There are websites online that compare your compatibility rate with someone else’s for a price, and some include free trials. They often ask you questions that you must answer truthfully to benefit from the full harvest of possible matches for you. Of course, you got to remember those precautions. If you must go to a website for dating, go to one that is well-trusted. You can do a bit of research about the site and see whether it is the site for you or not, since some have specifics while others don’t. A trusted website is often owned by a well known company, secure, and certified by an internet trust organization.

-Cutecatlove