Cliché? Maybe. But then again, there are times that a person just feels like they got to dress up and act like a proper lady or a respectful gentleman. That may be before arriving for a date, meeting a family, or going to a special party. So, how exactly do you turn into your current stance no, into a gentle-person? Whether you might transform to impress a certain guy or gal, or to uphold yourself more respect, here’s a few tips to learn how to become on of the gentle people!

First attention that should come in mind is, bada bing, bada boom. Clothes. Not much of a shocker, is it? When you choose out clothes, especially for a formal event, wear something modest and sexy. That means, women, do not go out wearing a super mini skirt that shows your butt every time you bend over or sit down. Instead, wear a skirt that goes up to mid-thighs. If you choose to wear a shirt or a dress, the same rule applies for the chest. If it shows too much, try to cover it up, unless that’s just impossible.

It can be open shoulder, though. Same rules apply! Sexily modest and simple. Oh, yea, no jeans when formal. Men, slacks and no jeans. I know it’s hard to do without the jeans, but it’s time to cut them loose and try a different pair of pants on. It is best not to be baggy when you dress formal, and keep your appearance clean. Also keep in mind to have your clothes ironed to look neat and tidy. Also, if you are a guy, it would be a must to wear a tie.

Now the next idea that should be upheld is how to sit! Females, make sure that your back is straight and that you never slump, and that your legs are always closed. Let it be crossed, knees together, make sure that they are closed at all times. Males, don’t slam your legs wide open and slump back. Make sure that you keep yourself closed as well, arms next to your body. Don’t’ do what males usually do; spread everything wide open! For both, watch your posture when you walk. Keep it straight and balance. For better effects, pretend that there is a book on your head at all times. Just keep your sitting to be simple and again, modest.

Oh boy, here are the manners. Formal gentleman, you know the rules. Hold the door open for the lady, and ease them into their seat. Both should know to watch their language, and also to act in a professional matter. Of course, don’t be too boring! Bring in some topics to talk about, and ask questions. If one of you feels uncomfortable about a subject, go ahead and speak it out, but try to stay away from such subjects. Oh, right. Don’t forget what your mom has taught you. No elbows on the table, and please say your please and thank you.

Here are some extra tips!

Put up a smile, and try to stay in season. Wear perfume or cologne that matches the season if you can to make yourself seem more appealing. For example, wear light perfumes during warm weather, and fresh scents for hotter weather. For spring and summer, choose light floral and citrus scents. Light spices/cinnamon for fall is nice, spices for a cooler weather, and heavy scents during the winter such as musk or oriental notes.

If you rather choose other scents for personal reasons, feel free to do so!

Remember, being a lady or a gentleman might be difficult, but it helps hold in the self-esteem of pride in oneself. Whether it is for a special occasion or just for your own benefit, being properly mannered is a way to make yourself distinct in this world. So here are a few helpful tips to get started on your way, and hopefully the trade mark of mannerism would stay!

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Here’s another first date tip! After meeting with a lovely lady or a lovely guy, and you guys plan to go out, find a nice place. Make sure it’s modest and decent, so they would know you are not the cheap kind of person. Instead of going to regular McDonalds or fancy Ruth Chris Steakhouse, try somewhere modest but affordable. Olive Garden and Applebee’s are two good places to go to eat out during a date without necessarily piling up the bill. Seriously, you do not want to give the wrong impression that you are cheap or overwhelming rich. Be at the center, and gain the center!

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Now this is a twist. Don’t date if you have a hidden agenda! If you are only dating someone to get to their body, or to use their money, halt right there and turn around. Dating is about loving a person, not what they have or how they look like. So before you go any further, march up and think about whether you are using a person or not, and figure out why you do the things you do. Using people won’t necessarily make you happy in the long run, although it may in the short. Word of advice: date to seek love, not just fun.

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Be sure to keep your hands off at your first date! Come on ladies and gentlemen. Is this a date or a one night stand? It’s a date, so keep it as a date. Your hands should always be at your side, and if you simply MUST touch the other, then a brush of the hand, or leading the other using the small of their back should be the closest touch during the date, unless a kiss is involved. Otherwise, your hands are yours, and their body, theirs. I’m not saying you have to be a stiff-neck! Just show each other a little bit of r-e-s-p-e-c-t!

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Avoid burping or farting loudly! While you could easily be yourself, try not to do that during a first date. It usually is a major turn off for most people, either guy or girl. Even if you guys know each other for a good while, and know that the other burp/fart and you guys like that sort of deal, it’s best to keep them on the low if you two date. That means you hold respect enough for the other to not distract them with body functions and noise. Keep respect high on the first date. That usually sets off the initial chance on whether you guys would be good together or not!

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Never talk about past relationships on a first date! That’s an easy mistake a lot of people fall into. While its fun to talk and open up, talking about the past ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend will make it seem as if you are not over them. Instead, open up the conversation with something both you and the other could relate to, let it be sports, arts, or just simply how you guys are at the moment. Keep it real, and make it so that you don’t seem obsessive about your past. Dating is moving to the now! Not staying in the past.

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Be natural! If you’re trying to flirt with other people, don’t force it out like so many do! Speaking with cheesy pick up lines does not work, unless you are just joking around. For either guy or girl, it is rather silly to see someone trying to catch a date with us using lines they read from a magazine or a computer. If you try to hard to be flirty, it typically doesn’t work. Just be yourself, smile, and laugh.

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There is a fine line whether you are using someone, or whether you love them. Sometimes we do not realize when we do use someone, so we need to trend carefully upon the line, and figure out if we passed it by now, or not. How would we know if we trend the line? It’s often hard to tell, especially after several relationships and hardships in life. The line gets blurry, and we forget what and where the limit is. Where is the cross section of using someone, or actually loving someone? Well, you better make sure you know where it is before you start opening your heart! You can get in nasty trouble with that. Watch out!

1) Broken Relationship

Let it be a few days, a few months, or even a few years, a broken relationship can sometimes blur the line whether you are using the next person you supposedly love, or not. Sometimes the next person you fall for may be used for your own support instead of falling for who they actually are. If you ever had a relationship before and it turned out bad, make sure that you do not instantly turn to the other gender for a new, fast relationship. Instead, take some time. It takes time to heal, as mentioned again and again throughout this site!

Whether you might know it or not, you could be hasting in a relationship to get your ex jealous, or to have a different support that is more than friendship. However, be warned that trying to make someone else miserable or trying to get revenge won’t do you any good, and will make it difficult to move on from the past. Although we might feel empty inside, and as if a part of us is missing, we should not be brain-dead to realize that we could still harm other, innocent people, even though we got hurt ourselves.

2) Exaggerated Expectations

Maybe you are constantly vying for attention, and you keep sending messages every hour, but feel greatly empty and disappointed with you do not receive a reply within ten to thirty minutes. Whoa! Hold on, that’s too much. Instead of staring at the phone or the computer, remember that you have your own life to deal with! When you cling on to someone like that, that is obsessed. It’s time to tone it down a bit, although it might hurt you emotionally. When you tend to vie for his or her constant attention twenty four/seven, there’s a problem.

If your expectations are exaggerated, more than likely you just want to feel like your loved, instead of you actually loving. They have a life to go to, and so do you. If you get mad and start throwing a fit just because someone did not talk to you for a day or a week, you lack respect for the other. If you lack respect, it is more difficult to show and to figure out if you care for them or not. Most of the time, if you do not respect them, you do not love them.

3) Moving Too Fast

Here’s one that we all should be familiar with. When a relationship goes too fast, for girls or boys, something is amiss. It is especially concerning if you get pushed to the point where the relationship is uncomfortable. If you are being pushed too fast into a situation or a place you don’t like, simply get out of it. It doesn’t have to go to the extremity, such as sex. If you are uncomfortable holding hands, say so. Take it at your pace.

If the other pushes it too far, it usually means that they do not respect you and are probably, with or without their knowledge, using you in some way, shape, form or matter. It goes for the other way as well. If you try to push the other to a situation where they do not like, you are not respecting them. You have to respect them in order to show that you love them. Respect is necessary for the foundation of a relationship!

4) Reciprocation

If all you tend to do it take in the relationship, such as taking most of the other’s time, taking their kisses, taking their objects and borrowing them, and basically most of the taking is yours, keep an eye open. You got to give instead of take! Be fair and reciprocate what you take by giving. If the person asks for something and you do not expect anything back, then you are not using them. However, if the person asks for something and you give, expecting a favor back without their say, then more than likely you’re using them.

Evaluate yourself and watch your actions. Your actions usually tell if you are using someone or not. You just got to have a clear head and use logic. Usually, hormones or emotions get in the way to figure out what you are doing. When that happens, it’s time to clean out your mind and focus! That line might not be redrawn, but you can always find a hint of where it lies.

-Cutecatlove

Oh! Well you know that place where you put your eye make up, right above your eyelashes? Well that is called a deep set. When you put on eye shadow, make sure you put a light color on! Putting a dark color might look pretty, but it also makes you look older. I would say that unless your goal IS to look old, is to stay away from dark make up. That is the make up tip of the day!

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All right, to make our faces better we often pluck our eyebrows or shave them and draw eyebrows on them, or perhaps we leave them alone. Either way! When we do our eyebrows, girls, make sure that they are even and that you have two of them. Also try different styles to see if they will enhance your face beauty. Once you find one that you like, keep it!

-Cutecatlove