Be a good listener. Everyone appreciates someone who would think, ponder, and wonder about what their words mean and why it holds importance. There are many people in this world who love to blab, but very few true listeners. It means a lot when someone speaks and a person is focused on listening. Words exist for a reason: they are meant to be heard. Show that you care about a person by listening to them. It does not mean you need to shut up and stare (although it helps to look at them so they would know you’re paying attention). It means you understand them and their expression. Sometimes a person just needs to express themselves to someone they could trust.

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Whether it is Cupid shooting an arrow straight to your heart, or Eros possessing your body at the sight of an attractive mate, people ponder whether love at first sight truly exists. The life long partner is finally achieved, and luck takes a large part of it. Does the ‘perfect’ match come just by randomly finding a stranger where love blooms when your eyes lock? Taken into consideration, the answer to that question is both yes and no. I will go add in more detail. Meanwhile, take note. You got to be careful when Cupid flies about.

Hormones:

Who can deny it? Hormones take a major part of our lives. From growing up, transforming bodies, attracting mates, and being attracted to mates, our hormones draws us to act and behave on our instincts. So what does that have to do with us being attracted to others on first sight? Well, they take a major part. Usually you are attracted to the partner that will help you create a stronger, healthier child. You both are compatible genetically. However, emotional compatible may be a completely different ordeal!

So while you might go head over heels at some guy or girl that caught your instant fancy, they may not like you or have a personality that is not as attractive as their outward appearance. Without hormones, the prospect of love at first sight may not even exist. It’s a cold truth.

Truth and Luck:

Another cold truth is that sometimes we cannot control our heart, and fall in love whether we want to or not. We could blame that on our hormones, thank you very much! Of course, luck has a giant part when spotting a special face in the crowd of gray. Depending on our mood or the timing of the situation, a potential partner may just pass by without us even noticing! If we’re depressed, tired, sad or irritated, then our dream guy/girl could walk on by the street looking at us without us responding. Emotions seals for the perfect moment.

As luck has it, nature controls when and where you will encounter the first sight phenomenon, if you encounter it at all. To help nature or increase your chance of becoming a victim of many Cupid’s arrows, keep your heart open and be ready to receive and give love. Just keep this tip in mind: appearance does matter when it comes to love at first sight. After all, it is their stunning smile you fell for, their enchanting eyes, or perhaps just their style.

For You:

If you want someone to fall in love with you at first encounter, I’m sorry to break it to you, but you’re going to have to leave that up to nature. To help increase your chance, though, you could always fix yourself up and make sure that your face is clear of all dirt, your clothes pressed and neat, and your personality is uplift instead of down and moody. Attraction is compelled greater by a happy personality, since happiness attracts people. It’s not a sure-fire way for others to suddenly like you at a first meeting, but it is a way to help increase your confidence.

The love at first sight is a possibility, and to an extent, it exists. Of course, you shouldn’t leave everything up to time and fate, although they do take a major part of your life. You are steering your life and you could turn the wheel left, right, straight, or even backwards if need be in order to help yourself and become more attractive to a person of your dreams.

Just keep in mind that hormones will definitely try to influence the wheel to take a turn, so keep your head straight on. Head over heels, but hey! The phenomenon might as well strike you next.

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Life is short, so please try to enjoy each day. You never know when you’re going to die. You got to love and enjoy yourself in order to make other people’s day happier, or better! Show the people that you know that you love them by showing them and not dragging them down if you can handle any pressure! Try not to complain to them or whine about their irritating deeds, and help others out to the point where you find acceptable and where you can handle. Find your threshold. Most of all, be happy. Life’s gonna fly by, and it won’t wait for you!

Go ahead and meditate. Give a bit of breathing time to yourself so you don’t feel overwhelmed or stressed out with daily life. Take ten minutes or thirty minutes out of your day if it’s possible. Hey, if time really is important, five or ten minutes wouldn’t hurt if it’s for you. When you meditate, you do not necessarily have to hum or empty your mind. Meditation is a form of relaxation, where you focus on relaxing thoughts and ideas to help you through your day. You would be surprised to see how that would change your day. Hopefully it would be enough to lower down the stress level everyone lives with!

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Need integrity? Pretend your mother, father, or guardian is over your shoulder the entire time, every moment and every second of your life. Being truthful in all you do is much easier when there’s someone to witness what you do, even if the witness is someone in your imagination. If that doesn’t work, then keep truth and honesty up in the front of battlefield, and watch yourself. Take pride when you do the right thing, and learn from the mistakes you do. Integrity is a wonderful trait to have! It’s also especially an attractive quality.

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Here’s another first date tip! After meeting with a lovely lady or a lovely guy, and you guys plan to go out, find a nice place. Make sure it’s modest and decent, so they would know you are not the cheap kind of person. Instead of going to regular McDonalds or fancy Ruth Chris Steakhouse, try somewhere modest but affordable. Olive Garden and Applebee’s are two good places to go to eat out during a date without necessarily piling up the bill. Seriously, you do not want to give the wrong impression that you are cheap or overwhelming rich. Be at the center, and gain the center!

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Be sure to keep your hands off at your first date! Come on ladies and gentlemen. Is this a date or a one night stand? It’s a date, so keep it as a date. Your hands should always be at your side, and if you simply MUST touch the other, then a brush of the hand, or leading the other using the small of their back should be the closest touch during the date, unless a kiss is involved. Otherwise, your hands are yours, and their body, theirs. I’m not saying you have to be a stiff-neck! Just show each other a little bit of r-e-s-p-e-c-t!

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Avoid burping or farting loudly! While you could easily be yourself, try not to do that during a first date. It usually is a major turn off for most people, either guy or girl. Even if you guys know each other for a good while, and know that the other burp/fart and you guys like that sort of deal, it’s best to keep them on the low if you two date. That means you hold respect enough for the other to not distract them with body functions and noise. Keep respect high on the first date. That usually sets off the initial chance on whether you guys would be good together or not!

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Never talk about past relationships on a first date! That’s an easy mistake a lot of people fall into. While its fun to talk and open up, talking about the past ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend will make it seem as if you are not over them. Instead, open up the conversation with something both you and the other could relate to, let it be sports, arts, or just simply how you guys are at the moment. Keep it real, and make it so that you don’t seem obsessive about your past. Dating is moving to the now! Not staying in the past.

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In a previous article there are a few tips in order to help you realize whether you should settle or not. Well now here’s the idea of settling! Once you’re down with your relationship and all is stable and well, it’s time to get into the actual idea of settling. So how do you settle and stay that way? Well, read on to find out how to stick together in the love-nest without it falling apart.

1) Double Check!

Before you actually lay down the line for settling, refer back to the article, “Should you settle” found on page 2, second article up. If you are completely satisfied with your current relationship, then proceed. However, if you think the other will change for you after you settle, or you plan to change them, or even if you think they would outgrow their quirks, or that your emotion for them will grow over time if it isn’t in ‘full’ love by now, it is best advice to drop out.

2) Strong Bond

So you’re married and you both are completely happy. Well, take note people that euphoria of love, or “feel-good” feeling that gets you hyped up to think about the other for ever, will diminish in about two years, more or less. While you guys may still be in love, that initial blast will fall, and then you both might be confused. Keep a strong bond between you both to keep the settling in the nest. Friendship and respect is the basic form of love, and if you keep that strong and high for you both, then it would firm the nest together.

3) Stay Yourself

All right, once you got married and all is wonderful, you want to drastically improve yourself in order to make your hubby or wife happy. Hold up, break the car and shift into reverse. Before you drive too far, think. Did they marry you? Did they marry you for who you are? All right, there you go. Be who you are because that is the person they love. While it might be a good idea to perhaps change a few habits here and there, such as maybe wearing clothes around the house instead of walking naked, or trying to do the dishes, be who you are, and stay true.

4) Remember the Small Stuff

Why does the sweet and simple have to end? It doesn’t have to! Even when you find happily ever after, you can still buy roses, chocolate, cologne and other surprise gifts once in a good while to surprise your love. You could also give them a back massage rub, or just basically a sweet simplicity that you know would delete them. It’s a nice thought to do and also reminds them that you are sweet, and probably will be for the rest of your lifetimes, without you having to tell them, haha.

5) Work Together

“A house divided against itself will fall.” Both of you worked hard to get to where you are now, so be careful. Since you both got married, it isn’t the time to be slacking. In fact, it’s time to start cracking harder, now that you both are together! If you live together, it might even be tougher, since you figure out every aspect about the other that you probably couldn’t imagine about beforehand. Like love, you have to work together in order to make a house a home. So go ahead and figure out who does what, and try not to fight over it! It might be hard to build up a better, efficient home, but you both can learn how to do it together.

6) Avoid Fights!

These two words are going to pop up everywhere on this website. Fights are one of the worse troubles anyone could find themselves in, relationship or otherwise. Make sure your ears are open and that you use your brain! Fighting is common, but you got to work it so that it’s nonexistent in your home, if possible. Don’t be too submissive, but basically find a way to perhaps make compromises to get things done around the home. If the other happens to not get it done, then go ahead and let it go, because they could go back and do it later.

7) Check In

This might not be some fancy hotel, but I’m pretty sure that you or the other has some possessive degree. If you want to go out shopping or hang out with the guys, go tell your wife or husband that, or leave a note behind so that way she or he won’t get too worried with you. Call in every now and then. Think of it like parenting each other. Checking in is a friendly way to show and prove that you are loyal and that the lover has nothing to worry about when you are out. In fact, inviting them out with you would be a fun idea to do, at least, once in a while.

Take Care

You love, so take care! Your lover and you should stick closer than glue and hotter than oil. Showing each other that you care for each other, and most importantly, take care of each other, is important. Although it might seem like parenting, or babying, take care of them. However, don’t become their second mother and father, or that might just creep them out. If you have a concern, talk to them about it, but understand that they’re old enough to take care of themselves. Come on! You’re with them, and they got to help take care of you as well.

So when you partake in settling, build the nest strong and firm. Once you find love, and you took it in, keep it with all your might and do all you can to take care of it. Remember, there are many rocky paths and thorns that you may run across, but it’s all worth the challenge to stay at the peak of feel-good emotion that you start with, and to keep it high on an all time level. Settle into love.

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