Nurse, I think we need you. We’ve been infiltrated! Our thoughts are foggy and cloudy. It’s difficult to sleep at night, and the food won’t go down easily. Concentration is down the drain, and favorite activities no longer hold our favor. The only sunshine in the window is this certain guy or girl. The madness has come, and we ask of you to please rid the insanity. Oh, but you cannot? Impossible. There has to be a cure for… what is that you say? Love sickness? Hold the needle. I think everyone deserves information of what love sickness is about. Pass the clipboard!

Love Sickness:

Is a mental condition where a person’s head has been infiltrated with a type of dopamine high. Dopamine is a type of happy chemical in the brain the results in falling in love. It is an award system the brain sets up in order to help us survive. Such drugs are released when a person eats, drinks or have sex.

Other drugs associated with the illness would be norepinephrine (an energy and sensory booster) and phenylethylamine (in chocolate). Phenylethylamine enhances a pleasure rush from chocolate. If lovers part, that chemistry level drops. The addiction a person has to their lover often has to deal with these hormones, and the pleasure center of the brain.

Symptoms:

1) Headaches/Dizziness

2) Sexual desire

3) Nausea/stomach disorders

4) General malaise

Weakness or discomfort

5) Obsessive and Compulsive Disorder

Thinking, contacting, and dreaming about a certain him or her constantly

6) Daydreaming/Spacing out

7) Mood Swings

Your mood elevates from wonderful, grand, high self-esteem, energized and then plummets to suicidal thoughts, grief, crying and lethargy. Or vice versa

Insomnia/Weight Loss

Unable to sleep or eat. Lack of appetite

Cure:

1) Time is the only known cure.

Love Sickness is like a drug. Remove the loved one and the body suffers from withdrawal and grief. There is no medication that can make withdrawal easier, except time to heal.

If the loved one stays, the body will start to build up a resistance to the drugs the brain releases. It weans off the addiction and the intensity. Emotions will become more stabilized and calm as the relationship moves to a firmer, steady one. It is a secure emotional bond.

Of course, there is the bad side of stabilization. People often will screw up their relationship and find a ‘new love’ to repeat the entire process of the sickness. Sometimes some people think they have fallen out of love once the drugs have been weaned off, when instead there was a constant stream of pleasure.

Tips:

1) Vent

You got to make sure that you have an outlet for pent-up energy, so make sure you always find something to do. Keep yourself busy.

2) Eat

Emotions take a lot of energy, so eat! Bread, fruit, and honey are good foods to eat while you’re stressed out.

3) Learn

Go ahead and cry. It reduces pressure and helps clear the mind. Do some self-evaluation and learn to love yourself first, and then others. If a relationship is new, take your time and let time take care of what needs to be taken care of. If a relationship is over, go ahead and grieve. However, if you are in a destructive relationship, go and end it. Not everything was meant to be.

Perhaps the problem most people run into during this interval is that they are too harsh on themselves. Be kind to yourself, and learn to remember that life isn’t always about another person. You got to enjoy life, so strive to do so without depending on others. Being love sick is normally traumatic, and it isn’t always easy. You got to just take it easy, and to use a clear head.

After failing attempts to find and reach someone in the real-world situation to date, some people turn to the internet for guidance and help. Other online relationships happen due to curiosity, such as browsing through chat rooms, or going on forums about certain types of games, then communicating with the people there. Perhaps you just randomly found someone interesting to talk to online and you want to get to know them more, liking them for their personality and their show on the web. Either or, as choices have it, should we trust online dating, and how do we know if it’s right for us? Take note. There are some benefits and some precautions to watch out for.

Precautions for Dating Online:

The person you may be talking to might not be who you think they are.

This is infamously known on popular sites, such as MySpace, Facebook, etc. If some person randomly decides to speak to you, or talk to you and you get to know them, their entire person may be a lie, or they may be lying about their feature. I’m pretty sure that you, the audience has heard of the MySpace scandal where a mother impersonated a boy, got a girl to fall in love with her, and ended up breaking the girl’s heart. The young girl then committed suicide, not knowing that the boy she talked to never existed.

Sometimes, other people would lie about their age to either use you or take advantage of you, or try to hurt you. Someone may say that their twenty one for example or twenty to get a younger person, and their true age would range from twenty five to twenty nine. That could constitute a possible rape or even a killing. Just remember to be on your guard if you are going to date online, and use your logic and gut before trusting your heart.

Benefits:

Talking online to another person makes the stress and fear of a real-life situation of speaking face to face gone. However, you can still transfer conversation, thoughts and ideas across the web. It gets you to connect with another person without having to worry about your appearance, and gets you to know the personality of the person before you have a chance to see them in real life. You get to fall in love with the person as they are, instead of basing it on how they look. It’s also cheaper, since you don’t have to take them out to dinner all the time. If and when you finally meet them in real life, you would know what to expect since you talked to them online, and be able to prepare yourself and become comfortable knowing them in the real-time situation.

Drawbacks:

Although meeting online has great benefits, there are also several great drawbacks. Other than the precautions you have to take, their lies may be extended and they, the other person, could be using you for their entertainment, their urges or desires, or perhaps even cheating on you although their words say they are not. You would not know their friends or family unless you ask, and they could be other people posing as friends and family for her/his benefit instead of your search for a soul-mate. It could even be someone you know trying to hurt you. Keep an eye out to protect yourself.

About Dating Sites:

There are websites online that compare your compatibility rate with someone else’s for a price, and some include free trials. They often ask you questions that you must answer truthfully to benefit from the full harvest of possible matches for you. Of course, you got to remember those precautions. If you must go to a website for dating, go to one that is well-trusted. You can do a bit of research about the site and see whether it is the site for you or not, since some have specifics while others don’t. A trusted website is often owned by a well known company, secure, and certified by an internet trust organization.

-Cutecatlove

While many people of this world see touching yourself (aka masturbating) as normal, and probably appropriate, there are others who disagree, some strongly. Whether you wish to stop touching yourself for spiritual reasons, to help make yourself a better or different person, or to create a stronger foundation of sexual loyalty to the person you are with, here are a few tips to prevent that hand from grasping a place where you shouldn’t be grasping at all.

1) Avoid Stimulation

You know what triggers you to be aroused. It might be porn, the thoughts that run in your head, or your imagination at work. If there is days/nights that you give yourself more love compared to others then stay away from temptations during the day. While a person may tend to be drawn to stimulation, learn how to ignore it, and avoid it if possible. The logical point of this paragraph is to simply stay away from any stimulation that you know off as much as possible, even on the days were you may feel nice and clean.

2) Walk Away

Throughout the day, there is much stimulation that pop up that may encourage you to do deeds that you rather not do. Those are situations that you cannot help to take away. That may be a billboard hosting a near-naked woman/man, a person who may be trying to seduce you (then that MIGHT no longer be self-loving), or a naughty thought. Keep your eyes off, and look or walk away from such situations. If a naughty thought pops up, divert it: focus on music or take a stroll. Just keep your mind off from it.

3) Have Self-Control

Half of the time we give in to our desires because we lack self-control, or we just learn not to care about the outcome. In order to stop masturbating we must first have the idea and focus to stop. Most of the doing is in our head, whether there is a reason to do it or not. You have to remember that your brain is in control of your body. They both work together. It’s a simple case of mind over matter. Your brain is over your body, and to gain self-control, you got to let your brain do the work. Self-Control isn’t served on a silver platter. You got to work for it.

4) Focus on the Struggling time

Night time, or the time when you go to bed is often the time where weakness is at its greatest. That’s when you find something else to do. If you simply have to touch yourself, do something else. Sit ups, push ups, working out, eating, and other ideas may help you diverse the focus and narrow in attention to other deeds. Basically, find something else to do that wouldn’t stimulate you and instead gives you something else to do.

5) Find the Reason

Other than the fact that it satisfies your body, what’s the reason you masturbate? Sometimes, masturbating comes from being bored, being lonely, being stressed, reminded of the pains of the past, or being hurt. Masturbating is finding an easy way out to forget those problems for a short period of time. If you masturbate excessively, there may be a problem. The simple answer, “it feels good,” loses affect if that is the case. You got to start digging deep to find the root of reason.

6) Deal with It

The puzzle is figured out, now you just got to solve it. Feelings often take hold of us and determine our thoughts and actions. Dealing with them in an appropriate manner is a skill many people tend to lose or forget. While you cannot control your emotions to an extent, you can control your actions to help you determine those emotions. As quote on quote from the internet, “It is because you decided to feel bored. Nobody made you feel bored. You did.”

7) Emergency Way Out

If worse comes to worse, have an emergency escape. Try to whip yourself with a rubber hand, prod yourself with a pen, or pinch yourself on the arm to divert your attention and to remind yourself not to do what you are about to do. If pain does not suit you, try something else as an emergency way out. Do something similar and as shocking however in order to stop!

Focus on a New Image

They say that it’s all in the mind. Try to image yourself as a person who does not masturbate or touch themselves. Focus on that for a few minutes during the day, although it might seem strange and odd at first. The more you focus on becoming that new image, the more comfortable you become with your progression. Remember, we are not perfect! An image gives us something to look up to and to encourage us to become a better person, and probably even re-program us.

Your goal and reason to stop touching yourself is your own personal issue, and may gain you more respect for yourself. It may help you become more sexually loyal to your possible partner, and gives you more time to fulfill other duties, such as finishing up a video game or balancing a checkbook. Whatever your reason, hopefully these tips would help you achieve your goal. Just remember! We are human, so don’t go too hard on yourself!

-Cutecatlove

Life is short, so please try to enjoy each day. You never know when you’re going to die. You got to love and enjoy yourself in order to make other people’s day happier, or better! Show the people that you know that you love them by showing them and not dragging them down if you can handle any pressure! Try not to complain to them or whine about their irritating deeds, and help others out to the point where you find acceptable and where you can handle. Find your threshold. Most of all, be happy. Life’s gonna fly by, and it won’t wait for you!

Once you find a boyfriend or a girlfriend to be with, how are you supposed to treat them? Do you treat them the same once you are together, or do you take an entire different personality? There are a lot of questions that goes through a person’s head once they decide to become firm in a serious relationship. What is the best way to treat the person you love? Well to make sure you won’t stumble too hard on the ground while brainstorming such questions, here are a few guidelines to keep so your significant other won’t think you are insane or unstable.

1) Don’t Change

Unless it’s for the better and to improve yourself, rather than trying to set yourself up to become a person who you are not. Instead of putting on a façade that you are the perfect ideal boyfriend or girlfriend once that you guys are together, be true. I’m pretty sure that if you started dating, it’s because the person likes you for who you are, instead of wearing a mask. You should keep it that way.

2) No Abuse

Here is a highly obvious treatment. Don’t abuse the person you love. Don’t treat them like a chew toy, kick them, beat them up, or swear them away. Make sure that you do not give them all of the work in the relationship, and that you do not steal most of their life away for their attention. Also make sure that you give them attention when they need it or want it, unless you have other business to take care off such as in the manners of family or problem with friends. Don’t poke them until they cry, and don’t shove them against the wall, physically or emotionally. Also do not abuse their personality. If they are kind and you want to do something bad, and know you can probably get away with it, that’s abuse. If you love someone, don’t hurt them. Period.

3) Respect Highly

Make sure to give each other some space and time to hang out with their friends and family. Respect that sometimes your other needs to show other people that they care about them, and not just you. Although you may love all their attention, there are other people in their lives and there are other people in yours. I’m not saying that you should stop hanging together all of a sudden, but rather that you guys do not forget about friends and family. Make sure that you both respect each other enough to give each other that personal space.

4) Communicate

Talking to each other is highly important. Communicate how you feel and ask often about how the other is. If the other is not communicative, go ahead and ask questions to see what’s going on. Of course, you shouldn’t be an investigator and put them under interrogation. If your significant other is a female, and she says that she’s all right but refuses to say anything more, and you feel like something is wrong, do not be afraid to prod her into talking. Even you guys need to talk, so you wouldn’t seem so dead!

5) Spoil Them

Be thoughtful, be a sweetheart, and don’t be afraid to spoil them when it comes to mind. It isn’t required to go out every week to buy out a fabulous lunch. However, a small flower here and there, like a monthly surprise, is a nice way to show someone you care. Spoil them with love and affection, but don’t drown them in it! Giving gifts every day may be a bad idea, since they might expect you to give something extravagant on truly special days. However, a pop up surprise is a lovely thought, and may even help hold relationship bondage together!

6) Be Equals

Don’t treat one another like a servant or expect the other to do the entire work that needs to be done. You have to be equal, and both do your share. Whether one works and the other cleans up the house, or vice versa, or pays to go to school or take care of the kids, make sure that both are doing the share. If a person pays for one get together, go ahead and pay for the next. You both know the work that should be done, and whether you both decide to make a schedule, talk about it, or observe and follow up, that will be up to you. Just make sure that you both treat each other equally, instead of one dominating the other!

7) Watch Yourself

We’re all human, so make sure you keep an eye on yourself and take care of yourself, before you go on trying to take care of others. Now you may have your temper, be hot-headed, hard-headed, and heck, even cold-headed. Make sure you control yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically. If there is anything wrong and you feel like you’re not up to do anything today, there are two options, and perhaps three if you can make one. The first option is that you can calm yourself first and make sure you stay away from trouble. The second is that you fight through your problems and do the best you can. Option three is yours. However, through each step during and even after a relationship, you have to keep an eye on yourself to stay in line.

Understand Them

You’re going to have to understand your other in a good extent if you are going to be with them and treat them the best way you can. Go ahead and have some insight of your other, such as hanging out with them and asking questions about them, what they like and dislike, and what irks them or makes them happy. If poking them until they cry makes them upset then don’t do it. If they like it when you mess with them, then go ahead and do it. In order to treat them the best, you should know them the best to your ability. Knowledge is Power!

There is nothing like respect, understanding and being fair in a relationship. Acknowledging and knowing about your significant other helps create stronger glue for the relationship building, and most of all, show your love! It’s one way to say it, but the strength of it comes from action. Watch yourself and how you express your love to one another, because you never know what may create a stronger hold to pull you both together.

-Cutecatlove

Cliché? Maybe. But then again, there are times that a person just feels like they got to dress up and act like a proper lady or a respectful gentleman. That may be before arriving for a date, meeting a family, or going to a special party. So, how exactly do you turn into your current stance no, into a gentle-person? Whether you might transform to impress a certain guy or gal, or to uphold yourself more respect, here’s a few tips to learn how to become on of the gentle people!

First attention that should come in mind is, bada bing, bada boom. Clothes. Not much of a shocker, is it? When you choose out clothes, especially for a formal event, wear something modest and sexy. That means, women, do not go out wearing a super mini skirt that shows your butt every time you bend over or sit down. Instead, wear a skirt that goes up to mid-thighs. If you choose to wear a shirt or a dress, the same rule applies for the chest. If it shows too much, try to cover it up, unless that’s just impossible.

It can be open shoulder, though. Same rules apply! Sexily modest and simple. Oh, yea, no jeans when formal. Men, slacks and no jeans. I know it’s hard to do without the jeans, but it’s time to cut them loose and try a different pair of pants on. It is best not to be baggy when you dress formal, and keep your appearance clean. Also keep in mind to have your clothes ironed to look neat and tidy. Also, if you are a guy, it would be a must to wear a tie.

Now the next idea that should be upheld is how to sit! Females, make sure that your back is straight and that you never slump, and that your legs are always closed. Let it be crossed, knees together, make sure that they are closed at all times. Males, don’t slam your legs wide open and slump back. Make sure that you keep yourself closed as well, arms next to your body. Don’t’ do what males usually do; spread everything wide open! For both, watch your posture when you walk. Keep it straight and balance. For better effects, pretend that there is a book on your head at all times. Just keep your sitting to be simple and again, modest.

Oh boy, here are the manners. Formal gentleman, you know the rules. Hold the door open for the lady, and ease them into their seat. Both should know to watch their language, and also to act in a professional matter. Of course, don’t be too boring! Bring in some topics to talk about, and ask questions. If one of you feels uncomfortable about a subject, go ahead and speak it out, but try to stay away from such subjects. Oh, right. Don’t forget what your mom has taught you. No elbows on the table, and please say your please and thank you.

Here are some extra tips!

Put up a smile, and try to stay in season. Wear perfume or cologne that matches the season if you can to make yourself seem more appealing. For example, wear light perfumes during warm weather, and fresh scents for hotter weather. For spring and summer, choose light floral and citrus scents. Light spices/cinnamon for fall is nice, spices for a cooler weather, and heavy scents during the winter such as musk or oriental notes.

If you rather choose other scents for personal reasons, feel free to do so!

Remember, being a lady or a gentleman might be difficult, but it helps hold in the self-esteem of pride in oneself. Whether it is for a special occasion or just for your own benefit, being properly mannered is a way to make yourself distinct in this world. So here are a few helpful tips to get started on your way, and hopefully the trade mark of mannerism would stay!

-Cutecatlove

Need integrity? Pretend your mother, father, or guardian is over your shoulder the entire time, every moment and every second of your life. Being truthful in all you do is much easier when there’s someone to witness what you do, even if the witness is someone in your imagination. If that doesn’t work, then keep truth and honesty up in the front of battlefield, and watch yourself. Take pride when you do the right thing, and learn from the mistakes you do. Integrity is a wonderful trait to have! It’s also especially an attractive quality.

-Cutecatlove

Avoid burping or farting loudly! While you could easily be yourself, try not to do that during a first date. It usually is a major turn off for most people, either guy or girl. Even if you guys know each other for a good while, and know that the other burp/fart and you guys like that sort of deal, it’s best to keep them on the low if you two date. That means you hold respect enough for the other to not distract them with body functions and noise. Keep respect high on the first date. That usually sets off the initial chance on whether you guys would be good together or not!

-Cutecatlove

Never talk about past relationships on a first date! That’s an easy mistake a lot of people fall into. While its fun to talk and open up, talking about the past ex-girlfriend or ex-boyfriend will make it seem as if you are not over them. Instead, open up the conversation with something both you and the other could relate to, let it be sports, arts, or just simply how you guys are at the moment. Keep it real, and make it so that you don’t seem obsessive about your past. Dating is moving to the now! Not staying in the past.

-Cutecatlove

Let’s face it. Our world is a disaster. Everywhere we turn; there is a bad event or a condition that is out of our control. Cancer, sickness, ailment, mental issues, and low self-esteem rides on every corner we travel. Other people also majorly affect us, be it friend or foe. However, some of us are the victims of a mishap. A person gets killed everyday. A person gets hurt everyday. A person also gets raped every day. If you have a friend who was raped, it would be best to console them and help them out from their devastating experience. How? Read on.

1) Remain Calm

Perhaps the worst action you could do is to panic. Seeing you calm is a good remedy to help the raped know that they are in safe hands and that you would help them out during their traumatic period. It is the best action possible at this point because it gives you a relatively clear head to think things through, instead of flinging straight into frenzy. Actions and emotions are contagious! If you go off the line, so would your raped buddy. We don’t need panic attacks to make this experience worse! So for their sake and yours, remain calm.

2) Safety

Find a place to go where it is safe. If a situation like this happens in the open, make sure that you bring your friend where she or he would feel safe. Going to your home may be best, and calling a local police station would be adviserary. While you do those actions, try to make sure it is safe for both you and the victim. Stay out of harms way and call some local rape hotlines in order to ask what is best to do. More importantly, keep an eye out on the victim to make sure he or she won’t hurt themselves, or you.

3) Have Assurance

After being raped, a person’s self esteem goes on the low. Make sure that you assure and help them. Always answer truthfully, and if you do not know the answer, tell them that you don’t. Most importantly, remind them that you care, and make sure that your answers reflect that you care. Sometimes victims will try to blame themselves instead of blaming the rapist, and have a feeling that you may think less of him or her. They may also be concerned about other people, but keep reassuring them the best of your ability.

4) Encourage Medical Attention (24 Hour Rule)

Sometimes the harm of being raped can’t be seen. Evidence of being raped can be wiped out as easily as taking a bath. Although your friend might feel dirty, don’t do that! Encourage them to go get medical attention as proof that they were raped. Semen or other reproductive touches can be washed off easily, and may be destroyed by the body’s regulation system within twenty four hours. Even if it has been a week since the incident, go to the hospital. It would also do good for the victim, just in case they have other physical damage that could not be fully healed by the usual at home treatment.

5) Listen to Their Story

The number one fear that most rape victims have is the fear of unbelief. Listen to their story and what they have to say. Although it might hurt hearing them say their story, you have to let them release what has happened. If they cannot talk it out, which may be difficult to do, go ahead and give them a journal or a tape recorder so they could let out the details and stress. They have to let it out one way or another, or else they would never be fully healed. Although they do have to let it go, it is bad if you keep prying for facts. It may do more harm then heal if you keep prying.

6) Accept Their Opinion/Don’t Judge

After a terrible event, the victim may want to choose to prosecute the one who did them wrong. Respect their opinion, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you should convince them otherwise if you do not agree with them. If they believe that the world stinks and all is at a loss, go ahead and let them think that. However, the worse you could do to a friend is to judge them for what they think and what has happened. They came out alive, so they know what it takes to come out surviving. You haven’t been there.

7) Be There

Make sure that you are there for them. Even after everything has calmed down, it would show that you would care if you visit and drop by once in a while to check up on them. Keep eye contact to show that you are paying attention, and remind them that they are there for you. As a friend, they confine in you and tell you what they are comfortable with. If you are worried, go and suggest talking to someone else about it to your friend. If it is okay with your friend to share, then go together to talk it out with that other person.

It Isn’t Their Fault

No matter what happens, do not tell them that it is their fault they have been raped. If they have been with someone alone, that is because they have trusted them. Trusting isn’t wrong, but that trust has been in violation. Remind them that it isn’t their fault at all, and that it was the other person who has been in the wrong. Don’t blame the victim. After all, no one asked to be raped.

9) Find Support

For Him/Her

Your friend has been through a terrible time, and it’s time that they find somewhere to lean on. You are a great branch to lean upon, but it may require the help of others, along with father time, to help them back on their feet. After talking to them and asking for offers to seek out attention, be persuasive but not pushy. Ask them if they would like support and go for it if they say yes. After all, the more support, the easier it may be to stand.

For You

You might be trying to help them out, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t be stressed out as well. Finding out a friend has been raped is a hard experience to be in, so it may take support to help you as well. Go and find a counselor to talk to, because they may give you ideas of how to help yourself and your friend who has been a victim. Support centers may also be useful because quite a few of them offer assistants for those with a victim of being raped. Remember! You have to take care of yourself before taking care of others.

-Cutecatlove