Staying Tough through the Rough
The foundation is getting rough, and the building of love that seemed impossible to budge is now swaying. How do you maintain a relationship when other people are trying to tear it apart, one of you keeps making mistakes, or other what nots? Well, here are a few tips to stay bond up like two peas in a pod through thick and thin.
1) Remember “We.”
Sometimes we get caught up into our own share in the relationship that we forget that there is no “I” in love. It is difficult to maintain a relationship with someone if you’re trying to do it alone. There is a “we’ in relationships.
Both of you work to stay together and to hold the relationship up. Both work together, both preserve, both struggle, both love, and both are in this boat together. In order for the relationship to stay afloat, work together. The “we” is also a reminder that you are not alone when you suffer; when you suffer, so does your partner. When you feel joy, so does your partner. It is team effort.
2) Compromise.
A relationship is composed of both giving and taking, sometimes making compromises to each other in order to gain a greater advantage; sticking together. Our selfishness, as human, can sometimes overdrive to make us think that the other is not giving us the attention we need, when in fact we’re squalling over it. We should re-evaluate ourselves and find our mistakes, and fix them so that there is no more “I”, but instead “our” happiness.
3) Trust each other.
When wrapped in a world full of wrath, nothing but trust could pull you through. When other people are bagging on your boy or girl, you got to ignore it, even if those people are your friends. You dated the person you love for a reason. You should keep an ear out to your friends, but don’t assume. You need to find out what happened for yourself instead of having actions based on words spoken, instead of what your eyes have seen.
While misjudging words could lead to a break up, you have to remain loyal in your trust. Those two, loyalty and trust, are hand in hand. Trust your love no matter what the circumstances are. More than likely, if you trust them, they would trust you back. Trust is a foundation, and to keep the building from falling, you have to keep that foundation firm.
4) Listen to one another.
Grab a pillow, a cup of tea, and a love-couch for a long discussion. Listening to one another, repeating each other (not sarcastically) and understanding, is a great way to connect. Often times, when someone speaks, the words travel from one ear and out the other. We got to keep the words our love says in our head so we could actually understand what they are speaking.
Understanding, complying and reasoning each other without screaming is a good way to stay connected to one another. Talk about any problems either of you guys have with each other in a calm, adult manner. Be friendly and patient as you speak and try to look at one another’s point of view.
5) Have some time off.
It is nice to see one another and to hang out, but sometimes solving a problem requires some alone time. If your love is making you mad, or they seem as if they need some space, give it to them. It doesn’t mean that you should go off and break up with your love, but try to limit the time you both spend together. Tell the person you are doing that because you want to relationship to stay strong, or you want to work some problems out. Either way, you both should have respect and understanding to know that sometimes, people need time to cool down.
These are the basic foundations for the first floor to steady the relationship. Most of all…don’t let the world get to you and make you lose the relationship with the person you have. Do what you can in your power to keep the love between you going, along with trust, affection loyalty and most of all, hope for one another. Love is a beautiful creation, so think before you jump off a cliff when the going gets tough. Both of you are tough, so stand the storm, instead of going.
-Cutecatlove
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