As you walk down the street of life, a giant cobweb lingers above your head when you approach another alleyway. At a turn, the Drama spider sweeps down, and ties you up. It is nearly impossible to reach down, free of the web. Whether you are at home, school, or at work, it follows you, attacking when opportunity strikes. Staying out of the web and out of the reach of the spider is a goal that most people want to achieve. Want to know how? Well, step one is easy.
1) Respect Others
Figure out if you are the person who starts the drama. Self restraint or self control is a must if you don’t want drama coming around. Talking bad about other people, annoying others, and ticking people off are dominos to the bomb. It may just set off the spider attack. It is also helpful to be nice to other people. Being nice would often lessen the possibility of tension between others. If the tension is low, often times, the drama is low as well.
2) Respect Yourself
It is true that in order to respect yourself, you have to stand up for what you believe in. However, that does not mean punching the lights of every word that offends you. We are human, and you need to know that everyone does not think the same. If another person gets offended and started to yell at you, remain calm. Tell them that it is not a big deal, because nothing is worth the drama. You have too much self-respect for that.
3) Don’t Contribute to It
If you suspect drama will start, try to walk away from it as soon as possible. If you are speaking with someone, don’t respond in a way that will quickly resort to drama. A sigh, a word, or an expression could set someone off or give off a wrong impression. If you have a feeling that you may be manipulated, leave without giving advice, and without question. Through it all, keep a sense of humor and a smile to wayward any possible attacks. The Drama Spider seems to hate that!
4) Stay Out of Other’s Business
Lately, the Spider seems to use friends as bait to capture you in its web. If others are in a fight, there is no reason for you to get involved. If you do, you will get hurt and you might lose a friend. Everyone has their own battles. Have enough respect to let your friend realize that they have the strength to get over any of their dilemmas. After all, you didn’t survive this far by letting others fight your battles for you. In some situations, you will know if you have to get involved if it involves major issues, such as death.
5) Know Who to Ignore
There are baits, and then there are draggers. Draggers often try to start the drama to either bug you, get on your nerves, or to simply get your attention because they have nothing better to do. Look around and identify the people who often cause drama, and then avoid them. Don’t be obvious when you avoid them, but be casual and try not to hang out with them. If a person loves to cause drama around you or who gets on your nerves, tell them you don’t want to talk to them.
6) Don’t lie.
Although lying may make some situations easier, it often gives you a bad name and starts other people to create a bad rumor about you. Don’t let that get to you, however! If you want people to not make drama about you, don’t lie! Lying often hurts more than just saying the straight up truth, such as saying that you love someone who loves you, but in truth you don’t. Say the truth so that drama would have less of a leash to follow you with. The truth may not set you completely free from drama, but it would lessen the chance drama would interfere.
7) Don’t Be Bothered
Other people would try to get at you to make you mad/irked, and sometimes they do. However, that does not mean that you should respond to it, or rely on it. If you let their actions bother you and it lasts throughout the day, then you have let them win their mission. Don’t think about them or their actions, and instead keep busy by thinking about other necessary deeds to do. If you do not have anything to do, then instead think about calm thoughts that make each moment happy. You don’t have to be bothered by them if they are not there, so don’t.
Remember, Choices.
You don’t have to live with the mind set that DRAMA will always be around twenty-four/seven no matter what you do. Often, it is our choice that influences whether drama happens in our lives or not. It is true that a life free of drama is impossible, because that spider will come about to show that either someone died, or something misfortunate happens. However, we have the choice to get rid of most of the drama that happens in our everyday lives.
You have the choice to end drama with the friends that bring it into your life, and to kick drama out of the house. You don’t have to hang out with people that are a bad influence and get in trouble, but instead find people who you can look up to and hang out with people you would like to be like. Often, we turn into the people that we hang out with. It’s our choice to get rid of drama. Once we realize that we have control, we can stomp the Dramatic spider, and stop most of the stings that it gives.
-Cutecatlove