Nurse, I think we need you. We’ve been infiltrated! Our thoughts are foggy and cloudy. It’s difficult to sleep at night, and the food won’t go down easily. Concentration is down the drain, and favorite activities no longer hold our favor. The only sunshine in the window is this certain guy or girl. The madness has come, and we ask of you to please rid the insanity. Oh, but you cannot? Impossible. There has to be a cure for… what is that you say? Love sickness? Hold the needle. I think everyone deserves information of what love sickness is about. Pass the clipboard!

Love Sickness:

Is a mental condition where a person’s head has been infiltrated with a type of dopamine high. Dopamine is a type of happy chemical in the brain the results in falling in love. It is an award system the brain sets up in order to help us survive. Such drugs are released when a person eats, drinks or have sex.

Other drugs associated with the illness would be norepinephrine (an energy and sensory booster) and phenylethylamine (in chocolate). Phenylethylamine enhances a pleasure rush from chocolate. If lovers part, that chemistry level drops. The addiction a person has to their lover often has to deal with these hormones, and the pleasure center of the brain.

Symptoms:

1) Headaches/Dizziness

2) Sexual desire

3) Nausea/stomach disorders

4) General malaise

Weakness or discomfort

5) Obsessive and Compulsive Disorder

Thinking, contacting, and dreaming about a certain him or her constantly

6) Daydreaming/Spacing out

7) Mood Swings

Your mood elevates from wonderful, grand, high self-esteem, energized and then plummets to suicidal thoughts, grief, crying and lethargy. Or vice versa

Insomnia/Weight Loss

Unable to sleep or eat. Lack of appetite

Cure:

1) Time is the only known cure.

Love Sickness is like a drug. Remove the loved one and the body suffers from withdrawal and grief. There is no medication that can make withdrawal easier, except time to heal.

If the loved one stays, the body will start to build up a resistance to the drugs the brain releases. It weans off the addiction and the intensity. Emotions will become more stabilized and calm as the relationship moves to a firmer, steady one. It is a secure emotional bond.

Of course, there is the bad side of stabilization. People often will screw up their relationship and find a ‘new love’ to repeat the entire process of the sickness. Sometimes some people think they have fallen out of love once the drugs have been weaned off, when instead there was a constant stream of pleasure.

Tips:

1) Vent

You got to make sure that you have an outlet for pent-up energy, so make sure you always find something to do. Keep yourself busy.

2) Eat

Emotions take a lot of energy, so eat! Bread, fruit, and honey are good foods to eat while you’re stressed out.

3) Learn

Go ahead and cry. It reduces pressure and helps clear the mind. Do some self-evaluation and learn to love yourself first, and then others. If a relationship is new, take your time and let time take care of what needs to be taken care of. If a relationship is over, go ahead and grieve. However, if you are in a destructive relationship, go and end it. Not everything was meant to be.

Perhaps the problem most people run into during this interval is that they are too harsh on themselves. Be kind to yourself, and learn to remember that life isn’t always about another person. You got to enjoy life, so strive to do so without depending on others. Being love sick is normally traumatic, and it isn’t always easy. You got to just take it easy, and to use a clear head.

Whether it is Cupid shooting an arrow straight to your heart, or Eros possessing your body at the sight of an attractive mate, people ponder whether love at first sight truly exists. The life long partner is finally achieved, and luck takes a large part of it. Does the ‘perfect’ match come just by randomly finding a stranger where love blooms when your eyes lock? Taken into consideration, the answer to that question is both yes and no. I will go add in more detail. Meanwhile, take note. You got to be careful when Cupid flies about.

Hormones:

Who can deny it? Hormones take a major part of our lives. From growing up, transforming bodies, attracting mates, and being attracted to mates, our hormones draws us to act and behave on our instincts. So what does that have to do with us being attracted to others on first sight? Well, they take a major part. Usually you are attracted to the partner that will help you create a stronger, healthier child. You both are compatible genetically. However, emotional compatible may be a completely different ordeal!

So while you might go head over heels at some guy or girl that caught your instant fancy, they may not like you or have a personality that is not as attractive as their outward appearance. Without hormones, the prospect of love at first sight may not even exist. It’s a cold truth.

Truth and Luck:

Another cold truth is that sometimes we cannot control our heart, and fall in love whether we want to or not. We could blame that on our hormones, thank you very much! Of course, luck has a giant part when spotting a special face in the crowd of gray. Depending on our mood or the timing of the situation, a potential partner may just pass by without us even noticing! If we’re depressed, tired, sad or irritated, then our dream guy/girl could walk on by the street looking at us without us responding. Emotions seals for the perfect moment.

As luck has it, nature controls when and where you will encounter the first sight phenomenon, if you encounter it at all. To help nature or increase your chance of becoming a victim of many Cupid’s arrows, keep your heart open and be ready to receive and give love. Just keep this tip in mind: appearance does matter when it comes to love at first sight. After all, it is their stunning smile you fell for, their enchanting eyes, or perhaps just their style.

For You:

If you want someone to fall in love with you at first encounter, I’m sorry to break it to you, but you’re going to have to leave that up to nature. To help increase your chance, though, you could always fix yourself up and make sure that your face is clear of all dirt, your clothes pressed and neat, and your personality is uplift instead of down and moody. Attraction is compelled greater by a happy personality, since happiness attracts people. It’s not a sure-fire way for others to suddenly like you at a first meeting, but it is a way to help increase your confidence.

The love at first sight is a possibility, and to an extent, it exists. Of course, you shouldn’t leave everything up to time and fate, although they do take a major part of your life. You are steering your life and you could turn the wheel left, right, straight, or even backwards if need be in order to help yourself and become more attractive to a person of your dreams.

Just keep in mind that hormones will definitely try to influence the wheel to take a turn, so keep your head straight on. Head over heels, but hey! The phenomenon might as well strike you next.

-Cutecatlove

There is a fine line whether you are using someone, or whether you love them. Sometimes we do not realize when we do use someone, so we need to trend carefully upon the line, and figure out if we passed it by now, or not. How would we know if we trend the line? It’s often hard to tell, especially after several relationships and hardships in life. The line gets blurry, and we forget what and where the limit is. Where is the cross section of using someone, or actually loving someone? Well, you better make sure you know where it is before you start opening your heart! You can get in nasty trouble with that. Watch out!

1) Broken Relationship

Let it be a few days, a few months, or even a few years, a broken relationship can sometimes blur the line whether you are using the next person you supposedly love, or not. Sometimes the next person you fall for may be used for your own support instead of falling for who they actually are. If you ever had a relationship before and it turned out bad, make sure that you do not instantly turn to the other gender for a new, fast relationship. Instead, take some time. It takes time to heal, as mentioned again and again throughout this site!

Whether you might know it or not, you could be hasting in a relationship to get your ex jealous, or to have a different support that is more than friendship. However, be warned that trying to make someone else miserable or trying to get revenge won’t do you any good, and will make it difficult to move on from the past. Although we might feel empty inside, and as if a part of us is missing, we should not be brain-dead to realize that we could still harm other, innocent people, even though we got hurt ourselves.

2) Exaggerated Expectations

Maybe you are constantly vying for attention, and you keep sending messages every hour, but feel greatly empty and disappointed with you do not receive a reply within ten to thirty minutes. Whoa! Hold on, that’s too much. Instead of staring at the phone or the computer, remember that you have your own life to deal with! When you cling on to someone like that, that is obsessed. It’s time to tone it down a bit, although it might hurt you emotionally. When you tend to vie for his or her constant attention twenty four/seven, there’s a problem.

If your expectations are exaggerated, more than likely you just want to feel like your loved, instead of you actually loving. They have a life to go to, and so do you. If you get mad and start throwing a fit just because someone did not talk to you for a day or a week, you lack respect for the other. If you lack respect, it is more difficult to show and to figure out if you care for them or not. Most of the time, if you do not respect them, you do not love them.

3) Moving Too Fast

Here’s one that we all should be familiar with. When a relationship goes too fast, for girls or boys, something is amiss. It is especially concerning if you get pushed to the point where the relationship is uncomfortable. If you are being pushed too fast into a situation or a place you don’t like, simply get out of it. It doesn’t have to go to the extremity, such as sex. If you are uncomfortable holding hands, say so. Take it at your pace.

If the other pushes it too far, it usually means that they do not respect you and are probably, with or without their knowledge, using you in some way, shape, form or matter. It goes for the other way as well. If you try to push the other to a situation where they do not like, you are not respecting them. You have to respect them in order to show that you love them. Respect is necessary for the foundation of a relationship!

4) Reciprocation

If all you tend to do it take in the relationship, such as taking most of the other’s time, taking their kisses, taking their objects and borrowing them, and basically most of the taking is yours, keep an eye open. You got to give instead of take! Be fair and reciprocate what you take by giving. If the person asks for something and you do not expect anything back, then you are not using them. However, if the person asks for something and you give, expecting a favor back without their say, then more than likely you’re using them.

Evaluate yourself and watch your actions. Your actions usually tell if you are using someone or not. You just got to have a clear head and use logic. Usually, hormones or emotions get in the way to figure out what you are doing. When that happens, it’s time to clean out your mind and focus! That line might not be redrawn, but you can always find a hint of where it lies.

-Cutecatlove