Nurse, I think we need you. We’ve been infiltrated! Our thoughts are foggy and cloudy. It’s difficult to sleep at night, and the food won’t go down easily. Concentration is down the drain, and favorite activities no longer hold our favor. The only sunshine in the window is this certain guy or girl. The madness has come, and we ask of you to please rid the insanity. Oh, but you cannot? Impossible. There has to be a cure for… what is that you say? Love sickness? Hold the needle. I think everyone deserves information of what love sickness is about. Pass the clipboard!

Love Sickness:

Is a mental condition where a person’s head has been infiltrated with a type of dopamine high. Dopamine is a type of happy chemical in the brain the results in falling in love. It is an award system the brain sets up in order to help us survive. Such drugs are released when a person eats, drinks or have sex.

Other drugs associated with the illness would be norepinephrine (an energy and sensory booster) and phenylethylamine (in chocolate). Phenylethylamine enhances a pleasure rush from chocolate. If lovers part, that chemistry level drops. The addiction a person has to their lover often has to deal with these hormones, and the pleasure center of the brain.

Symptoms:

1) Headaches/Dizziness

2) Sexual desire

3) Nausea/stomach disorders

4) General malaise

Weakness or discomfort

5) Obsessive and Compulsive Disorder

Thinking, contacting, and dreaming about a certain him or her constantly

6) Daydreaming/Spacing out

7) Mood Swings

Your mood elevates from wonderful, grand, high self-esteem, energized and then plummets to suicidal thoughts, grief, crying and lethargy. Or vice versa

Insomnia/Weight Loss

Unable to sleep or eat. Lack of appetite

Cure:

1) Time is the only known cure.

Love Sickness is like a drug. Remove the loved one and the body suffers from withdrawal and grief. There is no medication that can make withdrawal easier, except time to heal.

If the loved one stays, the body will start to build up a resistance to the drugs the brain releases. It weans off the addiction and the intensity. Emotions will become more stabilized and calm as the relationship moves to a firmer, steady one. It is a secure emotional bond.

Of course, there is the bad side of stabilization. People often will screw up their relationship and find a ‘new love’ to repeat the entire process of the sickness. Sometimes some people think they have fallen out of love once the drugs have been weaned off, when instead there was a constant stream of pleasure.

Tips:

1) Vent

You got to make sure that you have an outlet for pent-up energy, so make sure you always find something to do. Keep yourself busy.

2) Eat

Emotions take a lot of energy, so eat! Bread, fruit, and honey are good foods to eat while you’re stressed out.

3) Learn

Go ahead and cry. It reduces pressure and helps clear the mind. Do some self-evaluation and learn to love yourself first, and then others. If a relationship is new, take your time and let time take care of what needs to be taken care of. If a relationship is over, go ahead and grieve. However, if you are in a destructive relationship, go and end it. Not everything was meant to be.

Perhaps the problem most people run into during this interval is that they are too harsh on themselves. Be kind to yourself, and learn to remember that life isn’t always about another person. You got to enjoy life, so strive to do so without depending on others. Being love sick is normally traumatic, and it isn’t always easy. You got to just take it easy, and to use a clear head.

Whether it is Cupid shooting an arrow straight to your heart, or Eros possessing your body at the sight of an attractive mate, people ponder whether love at first sight truly exists. The life long partner is finally achieved, and luck takes a large part of it. Does the ‘perfect’ match come just by randomly finding a stranger where love blooms when your eyes lock? Taken into consideration, the answer to that question is both yes and no. I will go add in more detail. Meanwhile, take note. You got to be careful when Cupid flies about.

Hormones:

Who can deny it? Hormones take a major part of our lives. From growing up, transforming bodies, attracting mates, and being attracted to mates, our hormones draws us to act and behave on our instincts. So what does that have to do with us being attracted to others on first sight? Well, they take a major part. Usually you are attracted to the partner that will help you create a stronger, healthier child. You both are compatible genetically. However, emotional compatible may be a completely different ordeal!

So while you might go head over heels at some guy or girl that caught your instant fancy, they may not like you or have a personality that is not as attractive as their outward appearance. Without hormones, the prospect of love at first sight may not even exist. It’s a cold truth.

Truth and Luck:

Another cold truth is that sometimes we cannot control our heart, and fall in love whether we want to or not. We could blame that on our hormones, thank you very much! Of course, luck has a giant part when spotting a special face in the crowd of gray. Depending on our mood or the timing of the situation, a potential partner may just pass by without us even noticing! If we’re depressed, tired, sad or irritated, then our dream guy/girl could walk on by the street looking at us without us responding. Emotions seals for the perfect moment.

As luck has it, nature controls when and where you will encounter the first sight phenomenon, if you encounter it at all. To help nature or increase your chance of becoming a victim of many Cupid’s arrows, keep your heart open and be ready to receive and give love. Just keep this tip in mind: appearance does matter when it comes to love at first sight. After all, it is their stunning smile you fell for, their enchanting eyes, or perhaps just their style.

For You:

If you want someone to fall in love with you at first encounter, I’m sorry to break it to you, but you’re going to have to leave that up to nature. To help increase your chance, though, you could always fix yourself up and make sure that your face is clear of all dirt, your clothes pressed and neat, and your personality is uplift instead of down and moody. Attraction is compelled greater by a happy personality, since happiness attracts people. It’s not a sure-fire way for others to suddenly like you at a first meeting, but it is a way to help increase your confidence.

The love at first sight is a possibility, and to an extent, it exists. Of course, you shouldn’t leave everything up to time and fate, although they do take a major part of your life. You are steering your life and you could turn the wheel left, right, straight, or even backwards if need be in order to help yourself and become more attractive to a person of your dreams.

Just keep in mind that hormones will definitely try to influence the wheel to take a turn, so keep your head straight on. Head over heels, but hey! The phenomenon might as well strike you next.

-Cutecatlove

Life is short, so please try to enjoy each day. You never know when you’re going to die. You got to love and enjoy yourself in order to make other people’s day happier, or better! Show the people that you know that you love them by showing them and not dragging them down if you can handle any pressure! Try not to complain to them or whine about their irritating deeds, and help others out to the point where you find acceptable and where you can handle. Find your threshold. Most of all, be happy. Life’s gonna fly by, and it won’t wait for you!

Sugar, Muffin-Top, snookums, baby, teddy bear, among a bunch of other sweet nicknames, are often given to describe the sweet side of a person. Other nicknames, such as Bull Dog, Tiny, and Pee-Wee describe that status. Whether they are friend or foe, nicknames are given to show and shower attention to detail or affection. They are often given to lovers, family and close friends. While it is fun recognize each other in a different manner, there are some people that chose to stay out of the game. Just like in every segment the world has to offer, there are rules of do, and don’t.

1) Making Nicknames

When you make a nickname for someone, you have two choices. You could either use your imagination to create one, or log on the computer and find a nickname generator online. It is much more personal however if you make your own, instead of letting a machine do all the work. Most of the common nicknames come naturally. They usually come from the original name of a person, and they edit it so it would be shorter and easier to remember. Those kinds of nicknames are common sense. Female nicknames usually end in a vowel, while males end with the rest of the letters. Both can contain the letter Y.

Several examples are:

Christiana = Ana = Any

Edwin = Ed = Eddy

Enrique = Rick = Ricky

Candice = Candy

Dustin = Dusty

Regular pet names for one another are a little different. They are cutsies calls that often repeat a certain part of a name for one another and often shortened to have a child-sounding, admiring affect, usually associated with lovers or friends. If you know a different language, or a movie, and a name could fit into it, go ahead and combine those two together. It is sweet since it required a bit of thinking putting those together, if not, a bit humorous depending on the word.

Here are a few examples:

Michael = Mike Mike = Micah

Tabitha = Tabbycat = Tabsters = Bit Bit

Timothy = Tim Tim = Timu

Rachel = Ray Ray = Chelsea

Thomas = Thumper (Movie: Bambi) = Thomas O’Malley (Movie: Aristocats)

Ana = Amor (Spanish: Love)

Regular nicknames and regular pet names are nice, but if you want to make a nickname more meaningful, then you would definitely have to dig a deeper approach. Calling a person Sugar-Top, Baby Cake, among other types of food, beverages, or animals, usually doesn’t work unless it matches a person’s personality and how they look. If a person is a jerk who loves to trip people for his or her own humor and get into fights, I’m pretty sure the nickname Sweetheart, wouldn’t match it up. Nicknames could also go to the extreme, expecting one thing and getting the other.

Example:

Large, tall, muscular person = Tiny (one of those polar Extremities nicknames)

Sexy, sweet, well-rounded, logical = Baby cake

Youthful, sweet, willing to help others out = Muffin Top

Friendly, huggable and nice = Teddy Bear

Smart, crafty, sneaky, sexy = Foxy

Loner, strong, swift = Coyote

You get the idea. Basically, once you know a person and have an idea about them, you could give them a meaningful nickname that describes how they are. Feel free to use your imagination and do the works to match and pair up ideas. Combine words and names together, and you could come out with nicknames such as Gar-bear (Garrett, a friend who is like a teddy bear). Making up nicknames are fun, but if you refuse to make up a nickname and you just want one without the works, then proceed to the next step ahead.

2) Nickname Generators

Ah, the classical fun of nickname generators. You can find those all over the internet. Just log on to any computer, go to Google or any other search engine, and type up nicknames, or nickname generator. If you want to be specific, then type in what you like, such as pet names, or cute nicknames. A bunch of links will pop up, and then you could just click and go. Here’s an important note. If a website tells you that the nicknames they come up with are for fun and games, keep it like that instead of calling each other that nickname. I’m certain that your buddy wouldn’t like to be called, Red Hot Lips. Especially if he’s a guy.

3) Some People Do Not like Nicknames

Nicknames are fun and all, but there are some people who does not find fancy on being called differently than by what their name is. Some people think that although there is nothing wrong with nicknames, there is not really a point to having a name if you’re just going to be called something or someone else. It may be against their philosophy, or it may interfere with their definition of who they are. It may also remind them of a bad point of their life (think relationship wise). If a person does not want to use nicknames, then don’t give them one.

4) A Time to Use/Not Use Nicknames

Here come the rules of nicknames. Oh boy. When you are at work or at a place that demands maturity, nicknames have to be thrown out the window. As there are times in the season, there are times when it is appropriate to use nicknames. They could be used in a social setting, especially around when hanging with close friends and family. If it is a party, you could use nicknames if you wish. However, at work, with other people that you do not know, and public places, where people can overhear you, may not be the best time to use such names. Use your judgment and your gut. They are usually right to tell you whether you should call a person something, or not.

5) The Use of Nicknames

What’s the point of nicknames? As stated in the first paragraph of this article, nicknames are used to shower attention or affection on people, whether it is friend or foe. It is also good fun to give each other names that we can gradually get comfortable with, and have a deeper insight of what our names could possibly mean or be. It’s a way to make a person smile at being recognized differently than their name, and also gives a sense of some importance. A nickname is just a nickname, but as said. It gives attention and difference.

6) What to Avoid

When you do make nicknames, please try to avoid derogatory words, such as swear words and cuss words. It’s not really nice to hear yourself being called a swear word, especially when you turn into a label of one when you’re not. So avoid bad mouth and bad words when you do nicknames. That’s about the only thing to avoid, except to also avoid nicknames that may hurt other people! Calling a person Fatty, when they’re fat, for instance, isn’t very complimentary. Nicknames are for fun, not for destroying each other with emotionally.

Nicknames are all in respect, so use them to build one another up to a better mood and comfort. However, make sure you have fun or help others when you use them, or else they lose their value! Remember, it’s up to you whether you want to go by a different name or not. The most important note of this article, however, is that it doesn’t matter what you’re called. You’re who you are, no matter what name you have or give.

-Cutecatlove

Once you find a boyfriend or a girlfriend to be with, how are you supposed to treat them? Do you treat them the same once you are together, or do you take an entire different personality? There are a lot of questions that goes through a person’s head once they decide to become firm in a serious relationship. What is the best way to treat the person you love? Well to make sure you won’t stumble too hard on the ground while brainstorming such questions, here are a few guidelines to keep so your significant other won’t think you are insane or unstable.

1) Don’t Change

Unless it’s for the better and to improve yourself, rather than trying to set yourself up to become a person who you are not. Instead of putting on a façade that you are the perfect ideal boyfriend or girlfriend once that you guys are together, be true. I’m pretty sure that if you started dating, it’s because the person likes you for who you are, instead of wearing a mask. You should keep it that way.

2) No Abuse

Here is a highly obvious treatment. Don’t abuse the person you love. Don’t treat them like a chew toy, kick them, beat them up, or swear them away. Make sure that you do not give them all of the work in the relationship, and that you do not steal most of their life away for their attention. Also make sure that you give them attention when they need it or want it, unless you have other business to take care off such as in the manners of family or problem with friends. Don’t poke them until they cry, and don’t shove them against the wall, physically or emotionally. Also do not abuse their personality. If they are kind and you want to do something bad, and know you can probably get away with it, that’s abuse. If you love someone, don’t hurt them. Period.

3) Respect Highly

Make sure to give each other some space and time to hang out with their friends and family. Respect that sometimes your other needs to show other people that they care about them, and not just you. Although you may love all their attention, there are other people in their lives and there are other people in yours. I’m not saying that you should stop hanging together all of a sudden, but rather that you guys do not forget about friends and family. Make sure that you both respect each other enough to give each other that personal space.

4) Communicate

Talking to each other is highly important. Communicate how you feel and ask often about how the other is. If the other is not communicative, go ahead and ask questions to see what’s going on. Of course, you shouldn’t be an investigator and put them under interrogation. If your significant other is a female, and she says that she’s all right but refuses to say anything more, and you feel like something is wrong, do not be afraid to prod her into talking. Even you guys need to talk, so you wouldn’t seem so dead!

5) Spoil Them

Be thoughtful, be a sweetheart, and don’t be afraid to spoil them when it comes to mind. It isn’t required to go out every week to buy out a fabulous lunch. However, a small flower here and there, like a monthly surprise, is a nice way to show someone you care. Spoil them with love and affection, but don’t drown them in it! Giving gifts every day may be a bad idea, since they might expect you to give something extravagant on truly special days. However, a pop up surprise is a lovely thought, and may even help hold relationship bondage together!

6) Be Equals

Don’t treat one another like a servant or expect the other to do the entire work that needs to be done. You have to be equal, and both do your share. Whether one works and the other cleans up the house, or vice versa, or pays to go to school or take care of the kids, make sure that both are doing the share. If a person pays for one get together, go ahead and pay for the next. You both know the work that should be done, and whether you both decide to make a schedule, talk about it, or observe and follow up, that will be up to you. Just make sure that you both treat each other equally, instead of one dominating the other!

7) Watch Yourself

We’re all human, so make sure you keep an eye on yourself and take care of yourself, before you go on trying to take care of others. Now you may have your temper, be hot-headed, hard-headed, and heck, even cold-headed. Make sure you control yourself emotionally, mentally, and physically. If there is anything wrong and you feel like you’re not up to do anything today, there are two options, and perhaps three if you can make one. The first option is that you can calm yourself first and make sure you stay away from trouble. The second is that you fight through your problems and do the best you can. Option three is yours. However, through each step during and even after a relationship, you have to keep an eye on yourself to stay in line.

Understand Them

You’re going to have to understand your other in a good extent if you are going to be with them and treat them the best way you can. Go ahead and have some insight of your other, such as hanging out with them and asking questions about them, what they like and dislike, and what irks them or makes them happy. If poking them until they cry makes them upset then don’t do it. If they like it when you mess with them, then go ahead and do it. In order to treat them the best, you should know them the best to your ability. Knowledge is Power!

There is nothing like respect, understanding and being fair in a relationship. Acknowledging and knowing about your significant other helps create stronger glue for the relationship building, and most of all, show your love! It’s one way to say it, but the strength of it comes from action. Watch yourself and how you express your love to one another, because you never know what may create a stronger hold to pull you both together.

-Cutecatlove

Now this is a twist. Don’t date if you have a hidden agenda! If you are only dating someone to get to their body, or to use their money, halt right there and turn around. Dating is about loving a person, not what they have or how they look like. So before you go any further, march up and think about whether you are using a person or not, and figure out why you do the things you do. Using people won’t necessarily make you happy in the long run, although it may in the short. Word of advice: date to seek love, not just fun.

-Cutecatlove

Unwind. Life gets tough sometimes so you got to unravel by letting loose and sit back. Unwind in ways that you know will relax you. It might be hard, but try to find ten minutes every day for some ‘you’ time. It will be a great stress reliever and also gives you time to think. Of course, that doesn’t mean be depressed! Just relax and think about pleasant thoughts. Everyone needs a bit of time to themselves, after all.

-Cutecatlove

All right, girls. We all know that no matter how we look like, at some point of our lives men will bug us with affection. Sometimes they will bug us to the point that we get annoyed. While it may be nice to receive perhaps a flower or some type of gift, whether it is in crude taste or not, there’s a limit to where you just had enough and need some air to breathe! If you like the affection from the suitors, or the people who are trying to steal your heart, you may keep them. However, if you want to brush off these bugs, here are a few suggestions.

1) Don’t just give out Information

If they are friends, it’s okay to give out information, such as your number or an internet contact, such as MySpace, Facebook, and all that jazz. However, do not give your information to a random boy who decides to hit on you. That would only cause trouble! More over, if you have a gut feeling that a friend might hit on you, don’t give out your number if they ask. Keep your information to yourself from a person you do not like to go out with, or have a feeling that they would bug you. Best to stop trouble before trouble arrives.

2) Be Straight Up

If you knew the suitor for a good while, and you know you don’t like him, be straight up. Tell him you don’t like him and that you both should only be friends. The truth is always the best policy. If he wants to keep on courting you, and you are okay with it, tell him that. However, warn him that you do not like him. There is a line from a sweet crush to downright stalker. Make sure that you will have time to yourself and other people, instead of just him. If he keeps on persisting to steal your time….then follow this next tip.

3) Tell them to give you Air

All right, if they start pestering you, you know when the limit arrives. If you cannot breathe and they seem to bug you every second, then go and talk to them. Ask them to give you some air and to respect that as a friend. Be polite when you talk, and hopefully they would not through a fit. If they start to act up, leave them alone and ignore them until their fit passes. You did nothing wrong, and they should respect you.

4) Ask Them to Stop

All right, so maybe they didn’t listen to you the first time and thought that they could hang around with you at every moment, or call you every day as long as it isn’t every hour. All right, you got to get another talk with them, no matter how much you dislike them, and ask them to stop bugging you in a kind matter. Ask them to stop having any contact with you for a while because you need time to relax and that they are stressing you out. The truth is the best policy, but you have to remember your manners.

5) Talk to one of Their Friends/Family/Counselor

Whether you like someone or not, someone will always have a person to turn to, or a best friend. Talk to someone who is very reasonable and who keeps in contact with the suitor you dislike, and tell him/her the story of what is going on. If that person understands and open to a broader mind, instead of just making sure his friend gets what he wants, then ask him or her to talk to the suitor for you. Try to convince that you do not like the suitor and that you need to be left alone. If that friend is true, then he or she would talk the suitor out of it, or at least try.

6)) Ignore Them

If those did not work, and he continues to disrespect you by wasting your time or bugging you, then ignore him. Next time when he bugs you, you should tell him that you do not want to talk to him. Although he might whine or put up a fuss, ignore that, and walk away. Do not place yourself in a situation where you are alone with him, so make sure that you are always in public. If you say you do not want to talk to him, then keep your word. If he keeps nagging you and won’t shush, block him from the internet and the phone. If it starts to the point where he creeps you out, ask your friends and family to keep him away from you.

Sometimes men who are suitors and wants to win your heart does quite the opposite. Sometimes they make you afraid of them because of their determination and that they seem to base their life entirely around you. Fear not! There is a way to end it without having to move from your home town. These are a few tips to stop someone from courting you or stalking you. If worse comes to worse, you could also put up a restraining order. However, let’s hope that it would never go that far!

-Cutecatlove

Let’s face it, world. Not everyone is serious in relationships. Our current generation tends to have ‘love-hoppers.’ Love hoppers are people who quickly transit from one lover to the next in a short amount of time without taking their relationship seriously or settling down. A person who is a love hopper does not always stay that way. The decision to settle may enter their mind. However, it depends if that person is ready to settle. If you want to start searching for someone to spend the rest of your life with, then make sure that you are ready!

1) Questions

The first obvious question to figuring out whether you should settle or not is, “Am I ready?”

It may take time to be sure that you want to settle down, so be sure to have some self-reflection. Ask yourselves questions that deal with basic relationship, such as:

Am I loyal?

Am I willing not to flirt with the other gender?

Is my current/future boyfriend/girlfriend willing to settle with me?

Are there ways I can minimize risk to cheat? Am I willing?

Do I treat my boyfriend/girlfriend right?

Do they treat me right?

Am I committed?

Those are several basics that will help take a deeper insight of who you are, but you have to answer them truthfully. You may also come up with other questions or search for relationship questions online to acknowledge what may happen if you do settle.

2) Identify the needs and wants for both sides

When you settle or not, it is important that you understand your significant other. The number of kids, where they want to live, and other factors will be essential because they will determine if you both will get, or do not get, what both wants. When you settle, you have to be considerate of the other person’s needs. Once you both understand and get along, knowing information about each other, it makes it easier to establish a decision whether you want to be with that person for life, or not.

3) Consider

Settling down is not as easy as people make it look. Some marriages or settlements end in break ups because one or the other was not ready to take that level in a relationship. Figuring out whether you should settle or not determines on your personality, characteristics, and decisions. If you do not believe you are ready, do not enforce yourself. It is ultimately your decision and consideration to believe and know that you want to settle or not.

Remember, you shouldn’t be influenced by others who tell you that you should or shouldn’t settle. Although it is understandable to listen to them, it is you that knows what is best for yourself. Settling might not be for everyone, and life is taken in different directions by different people. Be true to your own nature, and be sure you listen to the beating of your drum.

-Cutecatlove

Make Up! Here’s a tip about how to wear it. Make up should be used to expose natural beauty, and no, that does not mean take off all your clothes. Natural beauty is showing your face as it is, while make up enhances health, warmth, and glow. Make up is also useful to cover up small zits or bruises. While some choose excessive make up, men are attracted to those with ‘natural beauty.’ As the old saying goes, “be yourself.” So don’t go wearing a mask of powder!

-Cutecatlove