Nurse, I think we need you. We’ve been infiltrated! Our thoughts are foggy and cloudy. It’s difficult to sleep at night, and the food won’t go down easily. Concentration is down the drain, and favorite activities no longer hold our favor. The only sunshine in the window is this certain guy or girl. The madness has come, and we ask of you to please rid the insanity. Oh, but you cannot? Impossible. There has to be a cure for… what is that you say? Love sickness? Hold the needle. I think everyone deserves information of what love sickness is about. Pass the clipboard!

Love Sickness:

Is a mental condition where a person’s head has been infiltrated with a type of dopamine high. Dopamine is a type of happy chemical in the brain the results in falling in love. It is an award system the brain sets up in order to help us survive. Such drugs are released when a person eats, drinks or have sex.

Other drugs associated with the illness would be norepinephrine (an energy and sensory booster) and phenylethylamine (in chocolate). Phenylethylamine enhances a pleasure rush from chocolate. If lovers part, that chemistry level drops. The addiction a person has to their lover often has to deal with these hormones, and the pleasure center of the brain.

Symptoms:

1) Headaches/Dizziness

2) Sexual desire

3) Nausea/stomach disorders

4) General malaise

Weakness or discomfort

5) Obsessive and Compulsive Disorder

Thinking, contacting, and dreaming about a certain him or her constantly

6) Daydreaming/Spacing out

7) Mood Swings

Your mood elevates from wonderful, grand, high self-esteem, energized and then plummets to suicidal thoughts, grief, crying and lethargy. Or vice versa

Insomnia/Weight Loss

Unable to sleep or eat. Lack of appetite

Cure:

1) Time is the only known cure.

Love Sickness is like a drug. Remove the loved one and the body suffers from withdrawal and grief. There is no medication that can make withdrawal easier, except time to heal.

If the loved one stays, the body will start to build up a resistance to the drugs the brain releases. It weans off the addiction and the intensity. Emotions will become more stabilized and calm as the relationship moves to a firmer, steady one. It is a secure emotional bond.

Of course, there is the bad side of stabilization. People often will screw up their relationship and find a ‘new love’ to repeat the entire process of the sickness. Sometimes some people think they have fallen out of love once the drugs have been weaned off, when instead there was a constant stream of pleasure.

Tips:

1) Vent

You got to make sure that you have an outlet for pent-up energy, so make sure you always find something to do. Keep yourself busy.

2) Eat

Emotions take a lot of energy, so eat! Bread, fruit, and honey are good foods to eat while you’re stressed out.

3) Learn

Go ahead and cry. It reduces pressure and helps clear the mind. Do some self-evaluation and learn to love yourself first, and then others. If a relationship is new, take your time and let time take care of what needs to be taken care of. If a relationship is over, go ahead and grieve. However, if you are in a destructive relationship, go and end it. Not everything was meant to be.

Perhaps the problem most people run into during this interval is that they are too harsh on themselves. Be kind to yourself, and learn to remember that life isn’t always about another person. You got to enjoy life, so strive to do so without depending on others. Being love sick is normally traumatic, and it isn’t always easy. You got to just take it easy, and to use a clear head.

Neil Sadaka speaks truth in his song when he sings breaking up is hard to do. Whether it is your first break up or your thousandth one, broken hearts, broken minds and discord is often common.

Of course there comes a time where maybe, you got to break up with the person you are with. Well, here are some general guidelines so you could keep your dignity and pose while acting.

1) Think.

What is the reason why you are breaking up with him or her? Did you simply have a bad day and you are venting, or have they screwed up? Before you do an action you may later regret, give consideration about how you feel and sleep on the problem or reason to break up. If you think the reason is a respectable reason to break up and it has to be done, then proceed to read. Think about it. If you lose them, they’re gone.

2) Do it in person.

The relationship may be long or short, but respect is necessary. If you break up in person, it gives the other a chance to relieve their emotion and how they feel. It also gives them time to have some relief of the sudden pressure of breaking up; let them have flow of emotion so it doesn’t blow them off.

3) Location, location, location.

Do not break up in a place where a thousand, if not a million eyes could spot him or her crying. That is simply rude and inconsiderate. Keep your dignity by showing him or her respect during the separation. A home is a nice place to break up at, but make sure that there is room for a quick get-away. Sometimes your ex may become emotional and out of control, so it is important to take priority for your safety and theirs. If there are threats to either you or the other of harm, go contact help if the danger is immediate or later if possible.

4) Give time.

This can go both ways. Give them time to heal during the conversation, and let them decide when the conversation is at an end. Since the other is deciding, more than likely the conversation would not end up short. Listen to one another when you speak so there won’t be any mishaps. While you both speak, here are some pointers to follow when speaking.

5) Be honest.

Honesty is important in and out a relationship. Speak the reason why you are breaking up with them, but do so in a sincere manner. It is better to have the truth from the lips of the person they love, even if it is during a break up. Tell them everything and all the reasons, but don’t make the pressure weigh down hard on them.

6) Try “I” instead of “you.”

Sometimes honestly seems to constantly blame the other person. Try to switch the gears around and make the focus of the problem as if it deals with you. Remember, it takes a force to make the reaction. For an example, which I found, instead of saying “you’re just a cheating liar,” go along the lines of, “I feel insecure and need time to regain confidence.”

7) Watch your emotions.

As you proceed with the break up, watch your emotions. Be humble. Just because you are breaking up with them doesn’t give you a reason to be prideful about it. Instead, try to be compassionate and understanding. Most importantly, stay calm and caring, but do not be intimate, such as break-up sex. It makes it harder for both sides to move on.

Stick to the point.

The entire point of having a break up conversation is to break up. Keep that purpose in mind. These words, “This is something I need to do for myself,” or “maybe this is the best thing to do,” may persuade the other to accept breaking up. Expect questions, crying, arguing, bargaining, begging, and/or especially, lashing out. Although it is nice to sympathize, do not fall for any of these. You called them here for reason to break up. It is important to care, but not to fall back.

These are some helpful tips to keep in mind during a break up, and will make it a lot easier on you and your partner. Although it may be difficult, it is important to remember that break ups happen to almost everyone. Your ex may also wish to do you emotional harm, but you need to stay strong and know what you are doing. Give each other time to heal, and move on. Breaking up hurts, but at some point in time, it may have to be done.

-Cutecatlove